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would you really understand their feelings...even though u dont feel the same way?

WH was saying how he loved me ..blah blah and blah..i did not believe a single word of it...i really really wanted to..but it was so obvious to me he was lying...i couldnt feel a thing..

now i am thinking since i dont like him ...maybe thats why i couldnt understand his feelings...since i dont feel the same way at all...

does it make sense?

it was over the phone..otherwise i would have done some face reading..

still...my question is if u have no feelings for someone...and OP claims to love you ...in all honesty...would u believe them...or no...since u have some negativity towards them?

You'll hear it a lot here, actions speak louder than words.

My husband told me he loved me after d-day but it sure didn't feel like it.

Looking back, I believe he did love me but he was so wrapped up in what he thought he deserved and what he thought had been done to him that any choices he made were based on that, not on love.

So I think your H can be telling you the truth when he says he loves you but if he doesn't treat you with kindness and love, what difference does it make?

The best way to find out for sure is to figure out what your requirements for reconciliation are, then present them to him. If he is willing to do whatever it takes to show you how much he loves you and wants to repair the damage he's done, you'll know the truth.