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User Topic: The Life Boat
OktoberMest
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, February 22nd (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for bumping. Great read...well written. :)


Me: FWW (35) Growing up at last.
LonelyHusband: BH (41)
Dday 1: 29/Oct/11; Dday 2:15/Nov/11; last TT 15/Mar/12
In R...working my arse off.
When you're struggling with commitment to your marriage, just imagine what it's like to be a penguin.

Posts: 558 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, March 12th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6053 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
2_4giving4_2long
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Member # 34008
Default  Posted: 4:53 AM, March 13th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You really get it wincings_sparkle

That's all I'm asking from my WH. I am so tired but working like a mad woman with a pail bailing the water out of the sinking boat. However, my bucket is getting more holes in it :-(


Me 52
He 49
DDay 11/06/11
Married 23 years
2 adult children.

Posts: 159 | Registered: Nov 2011
lifeblowntobits
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, March 16th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wincings sparkle this is awesome!! printed it for fWH to read as it sums up exactly where I am at 8 months out! Thank you!

**bumping this for some BS in R forum!


Me-BS-44, Him-WH-45-very remorseful
OW-Married, opportunistic co-worker whore
DD#1 7-30-2011: everything else lies until 2-12-12
Married 11years, DS19y, DS15y
2.5 years out: in a good place, light at the end of the tunnel


Posts: 1646 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Illinois
wincings_sparkle
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Member # 27129
Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, April 9th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
Lost333
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, April 9th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really liked this-helps me conceptualize the work I need to do.


Me:29,WS/BS Him:27, BS/WS (DontTreadOnMe) His Dday 2/19/12. My Dday 9/29/12
Married: 2 yrs, together 4 1/2

"And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" Anais Nin


Posts: 689 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Midwest
Cee64D
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, May 3rd (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for newbies


The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008

Posts: 2740 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Ohio
foundoutlater
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Member # 32900
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, June 1st (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Buumping for someone in need


Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

Posts: 1062 | Registered: Jul 2011
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, August 12th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for a new guy starting down the right path.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6053 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Remorsefulguy
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, August 12th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks! This definitely helps.


Me: WH (32)
BS: 41
Met: September 2003 Married: March 2004
Porn-free for: 16 Days
Previous D-Days: 8/09, 9/17/11
Latest D-Day: 8/10/12 and last!

Posts: 82 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Rock Bottom (Climbing Out)
MyNewReality
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, August 17th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a longtime lurker, and I just wanted to share how meaningful this analogy was for me as a BS. The Waywards who post in these forums are so brave and thoughtful. I sent it to my WS and hope desperately that he can keep bailing when I'm too exhausted.


Me: BS, 33
Him: WS, 36
Married: 10 years
DDay#1: 4-4-12
DDay#2: 8-14-12
R: ?

"Rock bottom can become the solid foundation on which to build your life."


Posts: 52 | Registered: Aug 2012
ptsdrecon
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, August 24th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump...
Nice...


Me BH (48)
Her FWW (39 + 1/2)
Married 12+
2 Angels 8 10
D-Day Feb 1 2012
6 month EA PA

Posts: 159 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, August 24th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH and I are both sailors. I think that this is one that I definately need to share with him.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4123 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 5:09 AM, September 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
tired girl
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Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, October 11th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for a newbie


Me43 Him 43 Hardlessons DS 24,22,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth”
― Pema Chödrön

Posts: 3663 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Teach8
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, October 13th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me: BW. Him: WH. Dday: 4/26/12. TT until 8/15/12 LTA 7 years. Trying to R

Posts: 468 | Registered: Aug 2012
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, October 15th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for another newbie.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2484 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, November 20th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for a friend.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
Bokomo
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Member # 37498
Default  Posted: 4:48 AM, November 21st (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brilliant. Thank you for an exceptional post. Thank you


WH 28 / BS 27
M: 3 years, together 5, knowing 19
1 DS
D-day 1/12; TT to 12/12
- Divorcing but working on R. -
"English isn't my first language so excuse any grammar mistakes"

Posts: 21 | Registered: Nov 2012
HFSSC
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Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, November 29th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2484 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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