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booger bear
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Helpless  Posted: 8:32 PM, April 29th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ummmmm ... no ...

trying to find a starting point and stop procrastinating ... I do that alot and very well ...

and happy to here you are back to you ...


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, April 29th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the welcomes.

I am not sure if I qualify for LTA, and I am not sure what I am looking for. It just seems like 6 months or so I could understand, even a year. But 4 years, I am struggling to understand who she was. Or worse, if that was her?


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, April 29th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

booger: thats ok hon, i am patient....and yes i will be a good mamabear and every once in a while throw out some nagging...and thanks its good to be back...

atsenaotie: 4 years is absolutely long term...

I am struggling to understand who she was. Or worse, if that was her?

of course you are, how could you not....for every single one of us here at si we are in the struggle to understand, why, how and who is this person we thought this was.....and the sad truth is we now have a new reality, a ne perception of what was and who....both the reality and the perception will go through lots of changes especially for those bs of ws who had lta's....this really is a rollercoaster from hell....but it is survivable and thrivable...


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, April 29th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tryn: I love that picture!! It really made me laugh!!

Booger: Ok, I want you to pick the item that you are LEAST attached to and put it in a box. Live without it for a while (but no longer than a week!) and choose another item.

So for now: ONE ITEM!

atsenaotie: Welcome to LTA. 4 years definitely qualifies for a LTA!!
Please stay and post. There are a lot of wise, supportive and caring people here.
Your question,

I'm still struggling to understand who she was. Or worse, if that was her?

This is the big question a lot of us are struggling with in one way or another. For many WS's it could be one or the other, but with LTA, I tend to think it's a combo, or the latter.

This is one of the hardest things to deal with.....what is real? The reality we thought we had, no longer exists, so we question ourselves, our knowledge of our history...so much.

Hang in there. The roller coaster keeps going. I'm sorry, someone just said something about it doing loops? Oh yes, it does that too!! (that's why so many of us get upset stomachs!!! )

I have to see if I can get back to everyone who posted. I'm in a tither about tomorrow, but I realized something important though, I don't WANT him to come back. I'm doing ok without him.
I miss what I thought we had. But it was all smoke and mirrors. He was an illusionist that I really believed was a magician. ( and I still want to believe in magic!)
Ok now, I've said the above, but then the self doubt comes in, and Mr. Charming will arrive and try to weave his spell again. (I should call him "Mr. Dishonest" that was UKgirl's idea?)

Miracle: It was great seeing you and I'm glad you are back posting. Hang in there. The weather is supposed to be better.

{{{Tribe}}}


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honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, April 29th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nofun: good, when you visit your daughter next, let us know and we'll see what we can do.
Unfortunately, we did not go into Manhattan, let alone Little Italy. That might be fun for another time...an adventure around "the city".

LOL, let's make it a convention! We'll see a play, stroll around, etc. My cousin told me that "The Addams Family" was really good!

But that's off subject.

{{{Tribe}}}


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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honest - just wanted to send you lots of hugs and support for today. I hope you can remain strong and resist "Mr. Charming" and poof any spell he tries to put on you. Your reaction to him today is critical and it's so important for you to keep up a very strong wall, especially if he tries to convince you that you should adopt his culture's concept of bigamy. (I just looked up bigamy in the dictionary - wasn't sure if I spelled it correctly ) and the definition is, "the crime of having two wives or husbands at the same time." Remind him of that - in the US - it is a crime. ((((((((Honest)))))))))
Miracle - so glad you're sounding better. This ride is crazy but you are strong and I get the feeling that you are coming back from each downside stronger and faster every time. Yay, Miracle. Sounds like you all had a great time. I hope to make the next one but the months of May and June will be completely tied up with the construction so I do hope it's sometime in July.
Booger - one item - just one at a time. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Atsenaotie - welcome to our little corner here at SI and yes, a 4 year LTA qualifies you as a bonafied member here . Hope we can offer you the support and friendship you will need on this journey.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Again, thank you all for the welcomes.

I just returned from our MC session. We did not speak the whole ride home. We were going to stop for breakfast and decompress as we normally do. I have no appitite and when I just ordered juice she said forget it and walked out.

When she is mad I am to give her space and leave her alone, that is what she wants. It feels like the pattern we were always in, get mad, shut down, move on.

She does not know if she ever has or will love me, but says she would like to.

I think I understand our terrible fights lately. She said in MC today that she would not tell me things to protect my feelings, but when she got mad she could speak the truth and it would all come out. I think subconciously I cannot belive what she is saying unless she is mad, and that has seemed to be the case.

We have no additional MC sessions scheduled. She is out of town when we would have the next one, he is out of town the next week, and then we (I?) am out of town the following week. It feels like the beginning of the end.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

honest: sending you strength, love and (((((hugs)))))....as tryn says...be lion and roar, or something like that...do you remember a song by helen reddy, i am woman....if i knew how to do it i would post a link to youtube for ya.....sing it in your head...

we are here, and you know how to reach me irl too...


fnf: thanks as always for the words of encouragement...you too lady have come quite a long way you know....so yay for fnf...


atsenaotie: boy this name is a fingerful on the keyboard, so i hope you dont mind but we all shorten our names to make typing a bit easier so how is "ats" for ya, i am totally boggled by your name so therefore i do not know what initials i should use...if you do not like "ats" then speak up, i promise i won't bite, at least not yet

your wife is a bit of a conundrum, when mad she is truthful, i guess i thats because when she is mad its ok in her mind to hurt you... ...something tells me you have the patience of an angel, not too many people let alone men would put up with something like that....she shouldn't be hurtful to you at all, truth does hurt but that is quite different then lashing the truth out...

and you are not alone on the ws who shuts down...sometimes i wish mine would, he sometimes is non-stop like a runaway freight train on a collision course with itself... ...but kidding aside shutting down does make it quite difficult to communicate, which makes "r" even that more difficult....

We have no additional MC sessions scheduled

why not?...you know when you both will be in town, so schedule it....and i hope you are both in ic as well....it really does help...healing from this is not easy, its a long hard process and if you can make it go just a bit easier i say go for it, plus some of us get stuck in the negative...so not a good place to be....ic will help you cope, deal and heal....


and btw i think its really a positive thing to try and understand where she is coming from, just don't lose yourself along the way..


((((tribe))))

and booger we are here...you can do this you know...yes its really hard, but the end result is a big positive..

remember honest we are all behind you today...you are not alone..


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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m334455
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! I actually had to take NOTES to respond to all of you.

Dip -- it's not depression; it's sadness. I know the difference. Depression has this physical feeling that is much different. But thanks for the concern. Feelings aren't rational -- but must be felt to get through trauma. That's what it is. Dealing with the irrational.

Tryn -- I should ask him when he wanted to divorce me. But -- I just can't talk to him! He keeps trying to open the door, but I just don't want to. it's too much like trusting him again and he's obviously not trustworthy. Why would I risk telling him my feelings at this point? Perhaps the thing to do is simply give him my observations about him -- the intellectual ones. Maybe that will start something. Maybe I could tell him that if he shares his feelings first I might find it to share mine.

Shirley -- I'm about 4 hours away too; I wonder if it's in the same direction...

honest -- I know what you mean about not wanting to come back. I won; but what did I win, that's the question.

nofun--
Everyone thinks we're the perfect couple. Perfectly matched -- and we really are. There are no two people better suited to each other than we are -- it's just that WH is emotionally retarded. I told 2 friends about the texts to his HS girlfriend bout not about OW and they were both SHOCKED -- as in, what on EARTH is he thinking.

Wanting your WS dead -- yes, I thought this, thought it would have been easier, but then I thought, not until after I knew. To think he would have died with me thinking he's someone he's not -- or worse to be told by OW when he's dead, well, I'd rather know the truth.

Issues before the A -- we really didn't have any! I'm not going to be one of those people who revises history -- we had a lovely, very happy marriage and he just F'ed it up.

Asenotie -- yes, 4 years is a LTA. My WH's was 20 years, 6 of it during our 7 year marriage (they were not seeing each other for the first 3 years of my relationshp with WH) I feel powerless to "compete" with that somedays. I wasn't even an adult 20 years ago.
Who is your wife -- she's someone who is living a duality. My WH seemed like such a family man -- we couldn't even figure out when he'd had the time. Turns out, he wasn't always at work. Now I know why he couldn't take a real vacation all those years -- most his vacation time was going to OW. That, and texting on his crackberry. Ugh.

Iwam -- no sex, huh? But I like it so much! And, no, I'm not fat, bald and ugly. I'm quite lovely, actually. People tell me I'm beautiful out of the blue all the time. Men hit on me like crazy, especially younger men, even while I was 8 mos. pregnant, with a 10 month old baby on my lap still wearing my wedding ring. Right now, I'm wearing a size 10 -- which bums me out -- but I know it's good for 6 weeks postpartum.

Today my WH said he was going to "step it up" even though I must say he's doing well. It was nice though.

Actually, the main problem I have with sex right now is based on something horrible he said to me about my body (and he said it right in front of his father too) last year after I had baby #3 -- and now that I know he was comparing me to someone else, someone who surely was more favorable in that area, someone he was banging, it just rips through my mind every time we have sex and then I feel so ashamed that we're having sex and so inadequate, like he'd rather be with someone else. It's rather traumatizing and on the one hand I'd rather stop having sex altogether and on the other hand I feel this internal pressure to have sex because I feel like if I don't he'll just start cheating again which is probably dumb because we've always had what I thought was a good sex life.

I know you'll be curious what he said -- so I'll just lay it out there. He had sex with this woman two weeks before DS3 was born and again 5 or 6 weeks after he was born, both times I couldn't have sex due to pregnancy complications and being too soon postpartum, and then shortly after we had sex for the first time after he was born WH said I was "all blown out down there" and "it was pretty bad" and OW hadn't had a baby in 4 years and I'd just had a 9 pound baby. Anyway it takes a while for things to go back and so every time now I just think about that and, well, y'all get the point. It's not even something I can fix. Sigh.

As for him choosing me -- yes. But what I realized is that of me, WH, OW and her BH I've actually had all the power here all along. Her BH couldn't put a stop to it because OW would rather be with my WH. Granted, WH could have chosen her, but he didn't have a choice to keep me under honest, truthful terms at all unless *I* let him have a choice. I was the one who had the power to put a stop to it. That has been a nice revelation for me. WH had power too, don't get me wrong, but his power came from deception and mine rests in the truth. ETA -- if he had left me for her, he would have come crawling back eventually. She's so awful to her BH and my WH would have gotten sick of her sh*t real fast.

[This message edited by m334455 at 10:58 AM, April 30th (Friday)]


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

M33 - I usually don't wade into the sex talk, especially don't like to give too many details - it makes meeting IRL a little awkward but I just HAVE to help you on this one. The fact that your H even THOUGHT that much less SAID it and in front of his FATHER? RU fucking kidding me? After I bitch-slap him to death I will need to see his dick to tell him how small it is!!!!!

Okay, onto the help part now...When my husband confessed to me about the double life he had been living, he was still in the fog even though the LTAs had ended years ago. Just goes to show that the fog doesn't lift until the truth comes out. He had the nerve to say at one point, out of anger, that he felt ENTITLED to what he did because he "was a really good lover" Over the next six months after we went over detail after detail, it became apparent that he wasn't sure if any of them ever had an orgasm. Now, how can you be "a great lover" if you have no idea if your partner o'd or not. After thinking about this a little, I think he felt completely ashamed.

Just to take it a step further, for a while, I made him stop as I had an orgasm and made him feel, really feel, what it feels like when a woman Os. He admitted that he never felt that with them. So maybe they came maybe they didn't, who knows? Who cares? But, fucktard buttheadski learned that being a good lover is not shaggins someone in a parking lot for a nooner, wiping up and going back to the office.


ETA: Boston area - you around here??

[This message edited by hurtshirley at 11:47 AM, April 30th (Friday)]


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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

M33 - Yep I can relate to that one too. My firstborn was almost 11 lbs. so I had some good healing to do. In one of my H's least kindest moments he said to me, "Next time I think I'll strap a board to my ass so I don't fall in." That should have been a raging sign to me but I was just so hurt by this remark. He has been a real fucktard at times and it amazes me that he has gotten to live as long as he has under the circumstances. Thank God nature is kind and does its healing job, putting things back to normal. Unfortunately, their nasty words live on long after our physical healing is done.
ETA - here's the link to "I Am Woman." Good choice Miracle. I think we (girls) should all get a boost from this one.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=65jGtEfPntA

[This message edited by forgivenotforget at 12:31 PM, April 30th (Friday)]


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a quick shout out to Honest today - be strong & don't take any of his crap! I wish I could see the expression on his face when he tried to find his clothes today.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

m3. I am glad it is not the depression, but feeling sad sucks too. I agree this is irrational. What your H said is just so crazy, and in front of his father? That is just horrible. How would he like being called "pencil dick" or "shorty" in front of others? Damn! Try to be logical about all this, please. You are good at that.

hurtshirley. Fucktard buttheadski! I suppose that is Polish. Your description of the parking lot nooner was pretty funny!

I am happy that I accomplished my goal of making someone laugh and spit liquid. I am sad about the collateral damage to your keyboard. When you meet with miracle she can pay you for it. Miracle is in charge of my east coast debt management division.

miracle. I only said that about the hen party because it was a all girl meeting. That is what the guys around here call girl get togethers. If I was going to call you all chicks, I would have said "a hot sophisticated NYC chicks party." Use my definition of sophisticated, not yours.
You would think that the women here would call a all male meeting a rooster meeting. For some reason they don't. I have heard it called "a clueless dumbasses meeting," and "the ignorant dickhead get together." Depending on the weather and/or, the "time of the month," there is often several variations of the F word included in this description.

Several days ago you thought I might have put a curse on you concerning a prematurepostulation problem you were having. I did not do that. If I had that kind of power I would use it in a more constructive manner. I would only put a curse on bad people anyway. Now about that problem. It sometimes helps when you feel that you are getting ready to post prematurly to think of something else. This distracting method does not always work. Sometimes it just happens, you can not control it and you post before you should.

It sounds like the "hen party" came at a good time for you and I hope you are feeling better.

booger. How is school? Hang in there.

honest. Good luck with mr dishonest. You need to do what is best for you.

nofun. It is nice that you did not add poison to his meals. It is smart to deny it even if you did.

Tribe. Am I the only one here that did not wish my WS dead? I really don't think I did. Maybe I am suffering from some sort of memory block. Damn, this is a rough crowd!

UKgirl has posted that she prepares some pretty fancy meals. I just want to say that guys can cook too. I cook around 8-10 meals a week. My W does sometimes do half of the meal. Not today. I am fixing babyback ribs, baked potatos, and the baked beans on the grill. Ribs cook 6 hrs at 225 degree, potato 5 hr, and the beans 1 hr. The grill is smoking and I am monitoring the situation carefully. The ribs will be melt in your mouth and so tasty. Mrs Dip is so lucky to have a H that will slave over a hot grill all day.

Welcome to the new members here at the LTA house.

Hugs to the tribe.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am fixing babyback ribs, baked potatos, and the baked beans on the grill.

OMG!!!! I just luuuuuuvvvv ribs!! (need some kind of slurpy tongue face here). What time should I be over?


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

old dipstick,

Your talk of ribs inspired me! I think it is time to smoke a pork butt this weekend. You know, the kind where the drippings from the butt fall into the beans underneath.

Hell, I am down 60+ pounds since DDay, I think I can splurge for a bad weekend

Maybe I can get the word out and make a couple of cold beers the price of admission.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well guys, I was getting really hungry after all your talk about bbq's but then I read "where the drippings from the butt fall" and I kind of lost my appetite.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

m3:

Iwam -- no sex, huh? But I like it so much!

i must confess, especially after my dd17 was born, for the prio time to the birth i didn't want sex, all i wanted was choc hagandaaz and sleep....th day after delivery, i had a c-section, i asked the dr if i could have sex, he looked at me and said no way, not for 6 weeks...i couldn't understand and told him so, i told him that my dd didn't come out of that way so why couldn't i have sex....he said no, emphatically..i had lost time to make up for...i love sex.....i then proceeded to beg pfm after around week 3 to have sex, he turned me down until week 5...little did i know how busy the boy was...

I'm quite lovely, actually. People tell me I'm beautiful out of the blue all the time. Men hit on me like crazy, especially younger men, even while I was 8 mos. pregnant, with a 10 month old baby on my lap still wearing my wedding ring. Right now, I'm wearing a size 10 -- which bums me out -- but I know it's good for 6 weeks postpartum.

i am so glad to hear you say all this, and size 10 is totally fab...i couldn't say that after baby #3...not at all.....so kudos for you...


WH said I was "all blown out down there" and "it was pretty bad"

this was such a bold faced lie...the man needed to justify his actions..and that is a pretty desperate justification...about to go tmi...i am the opposite of most people, i am very tight, sometimes too tight...i used to joke with pfm if it excited him, always feeling like it was brand spankin new....i have to say he never complained...but i took this as another affirmation that he would never stray because this was not an issue...now thats stupid...believing that he wouldn't look elsewhere because i loved sex and i was always tight....pfm when i found out about #2...#1 was still not confirmed yet as a pa, but #2 was and he looked at me and said well you cut me off....what a total crock of shit, i only turned him down when either my kids were really sick or i had my period...but he was trying to justify...my period was a couple of days without sex...he groomed #2 ans was already actively fucking #1...so long story short finally...that all it is justifications....honest's husband tried this one too to justify impending wife #3....

i have since learned that the ws will say anything at all to justify his behavior because it is so much easier to believe the justfication the the truth of their own behavior....having to face who and what you are is not easy when all you have been is so ugly....

hs:

Just to take it a step further, for a while, I made him stop as I had an orgasm and made him feel, really feel, what it feels like when a woman Os. He admitted that he never felt that with them. So maybe they came maybe they didn't, who knows? Who cares? But, fucktard buttheadski learned that being a good lover is not shaggins someone in a parking lot for a nooner, wiping up and going back to the office.

i love this...i asked pfm with each one he admitted to fucking if they had "o"..he told me they said they did...and then i looked at him because i was never one to fake it, and when i did he felt it....so i asked him if he ever felt them "o"..and he said no...all i could think of especially with #1, you love this woman and you never felt her "o"...how can this be....how could you call this great sex....but to him it didn't matter he was in love and his needs were being met.. ....


dip:

Am I the only one here that did not wish my WS dead?

i actually don't think you are, but there are many of us on this entire site that would have preferred to lose the marriage through death then infidelity....someone who dies is not choosing to break your heart, not choosing to hurt you more then you ever dreamed...etc...

Miracle is in charge of my east coast debt management division.

as soon as you send me the cash i will take care of it boss... ...notice how hard i laugh after i call you "boss"


You would think that the women here would call a all male meeting a rooster meeting. For some reason they don't. I have heard it called "a clueless dumbasses meeting," and "the ignorant dickhead get together." Depending on the weather and/or, the "time of the month," there is often several variations of the F word included in this description.

i think you are correct on this...i do believe that this meeting of the so-called "minds" is monumentally labelled accordingly...


I just want to say that guys can cook too.

i knew this already , i have 2 boys who not only love to cook but are quite good at it... ...

word for the future: i don't do bbq ribs..so make a note for the future when you cook for me.. ...

Mrs Dip is so lucky to have a H that will slave over a hot grill all day.

mrs dip is quite lucky on many levels mr dip..


allgood:

I wish I could see the expression on his face when he tried to find his clothes today

me too!...

remember honest, allgood would love to be able to let him have it and i would love to hear it...


need some kind of slurpy tongue face here

need to put in a request to the mods for this one..


oh and dip my prematurepostulation happens when i click incorrectly, do how do i fix that ...i mean i can't think about something else because i think i already did that when it happened....or maybe i just need to get better with my aim!!!


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dip: I didn't wish my h had died. No second chances with death & I'm still hoping the man I married will come back one day.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, April 30th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sorry forgivenotforget, I should have worded that better

I guess I sholdn't mention my special butt rub

-- Ats


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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old dipstick
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Allgood. I was afraid I was the only one. I have seen more than my fair share of death so maybe that is why I did not think that way. I can understand why someone would like to see their WS eliminated, so I am not standing in judgement. I hope you get your wish about your H.

miracle. Calling me boss? Yes that made me laugh. Probably more than you. It is good that your boys can cook. In the future that could come in handy. I will write this down. Ribs for miracle. Damn, you know I can't resist those blinking eyes. Mrs Dip is going to be a full and happy woman in a few hours. Probably curl up and fall asleep after the big meal. Maybe I need to cut back on some of this food. I can't get any Friday night action this way. Now about that premature problem. Yes it is probably just your aim.

forgive. It does sound bad. It is damn good though. Your first baby was almost 11 lbs! Wow.

ast. Yes, get out there and smoke that butt. You deserve the treat. Beer for food is great. Charge at least 4 beers a meal. they should be glad to pay that. How long do you smoke yours? I smoke my butts for 17-18 hours.

hurtshirley. The ribs & stuff will be ready at 6:15. Don't be late. Please bring your slurpy tounge. Are you going to bring fucktard buttheadski with you?

Tribe. It is Friday and some here are just a little crazy today. Me included. I will say that this talk of the men complaining about their women being too large "down there" is really strange. This seems such a stupid and wrong thing to say. If I remember correctly honest's H said this. Now today three more of you say that their H put out this bullshit. I hate this for you all. I just do not know what to say except those guys were really dumb. I hope you all can mark that down to ignorance and try to forget it. I know that is easier said than done.

I'm gone for the weekend so you all get a break from me.

Hugs to the tribe.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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