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User Topic: Honey, they always affair down
circlinggirl
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, October 9th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are amazing, DBB! Thank you so much for this. Obviously as this is a 36 page long thread, you have helped MANY with your inspiring words. I will be showing this to my WS, as well. You have articulated so beautifully what is not always obvious. THANK YOU!


Me- BS (27)
Him- WS (32) MajorTom
Dday July 23, 2012
PA during January 2012
In R.

"New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings." -- Lao Tzu


Posts: 89 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Oregon
tinysteps
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Member # 36104
Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, October 12th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.
This ALWAYS makes me feel better


BS-Me (48)
WH-Him (54)
M-12yrs Together 15 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster

How will see the great things ahead of us if we keep looking back at the bad things behind us?


Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: My heart is at the beach
Lost33
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, October 12th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the thread I remember seeing its so great


Wh 37 (sam793) Bs 33 me
Married 8 years. Daughter 2, due in April
Dd: July 10/12 ow called me (3.5 year ea and pa)
Ow-32-chose to not have custody of kids, divorced.drinks, drugs, goes from job to job! Had "in a relationship" with wh on fb

Posts: 75 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Canada
hurtandscared30
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Member # 37127
Default  Posted: 3:29 AM, October 14th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you...this made me feel a little bit better. I'll have to keep re-reading it as time goes by, when it might help more.


BS: Me 30
WS: Him 33
DD: 19 months old
DS: 6 months old
D-day 1: August 19th 2012
D-day 2: August 30th
D-day 3: September 5th
D-day 4: October 2nd

Posts: 35 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Washington
Edie
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Member # 26133
Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, October 24th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped for notsaralee.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5123 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
shattered123
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, October 27th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post!

Posts: 2590 | Registered: Mar 2010
DixieD
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, November 8th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for newbies


Growing forward

Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2011
itfeelsunreal
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, November 9th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still love this post.


So close, I can taste it!
BS=me, fifty-something
Married 1985
Dday 3/20/12
Reconciling, oh ya!

Posts: 144 | Registered: Jun 2012
Edie
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Member # 26133
Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, November 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5123 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Blameitontherain
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, November 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I never thought of it that way at all. You have given me a moment of peace and clarity. I hope that I can draw strength from this.

Thank you very much! I am so very glad I clicked on this thread.


Posts: 273 | Registered: Nov 2012
Zebo1434
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, November 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, this was a read I really needed today. More then anything I miss the feeling of security, confidence and self worth.... And this helps. Even knowing the OW was a hag, and a very ughhh person, readibg it in this perspective is helpful.

Thank you.


BS Me -26
WH - 24
D Day 10/25/2012

Posts: 18 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: zebo1434
brunette
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, November 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well said! The only thing that I could add to this is that She is the victum and he is the rescuer. Then the roles reverse and he is the victum and she is the rescurer and the whole ugly circle keeps perpetuating itself. Two sick people thinking that they have something special because they can talk to each other. What shit! While you are at home taking care of the house and kids and everything else so he can be with his soulmate pouring out his heart to the one that he thinks he loves.

Posts: 28 | Registered: Jul 2011
jojo42
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, November 24th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for bumping this- I loved it


Me: 30, BS
Him: 30, WH
Married: 1 year, together for 7 years
1st child due in Sept 2013
DDay: 09/02/12, 09/22/12 admitted to EA ,false R, then 06/02/13 found out about PA & EA with same woman (OW is a coworker)
Hoping for R

Posts: 72 | Registered: Nov 2012
Tiseye
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, November 24th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks you... even though we're the ones "not doing something wrong" it still feels awful and I love your perspective.

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2012
Edie
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, November 28th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for rugirlie


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5123 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Edie
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Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, December 22nd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5123 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
notwarmorfuzzy
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, December 22nd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOW!!! This post is amazing! Inspiring! True words of strength, pride, wisdom & IMPOWERMENT! Truly amazing! Thank u!!!!!!!
👍👍👍👍🙏

Posts: 35 | Registered: Dec 2012
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, December 22nd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this post.

I read it early on and it really gave me strength.

Thanks DBB!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, December 22nd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Deathbybetrayal, I just found your posting, and wow. Well said. I especially like, "She accepts the very worst parts of our husbands; the liar, the cheater, the deceiver, the broken man. His behavior is lower than low, but that’s okay with her. She’s accepts trashy behavior, because she is trash."


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 408 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
Edie
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Member # 26133
Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, January 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

a bump for a new year and new view


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5123 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
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