Topic: Honey, they always affair down
Member # 36490
| Posted: 9:25 PM, August 17th (Friday), 2012|
deathbybetrayal - those were the most empowering words i've read to date (and heaven knows i've read a lot!!).
i think i'll make it a habit to read that at least once daily. thanks so much!
Married 15; Together 18
"Mid Life Crisis Affair Jan 2011"
I found his hotel charges on the Visa bill. How very Soap Opera.
Two beautiful daughters = my life
Posts: 52 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: PA
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Member # 36518
| Posted: 9:33 PM, August 17th (Friday), 2012|
Thank you for those words. . . It made me cry the whole way through.
Posts: 7 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: NC
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Member # 35200
| Posted: 9:57 AM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012|
Thanks so much for these very true words. I have to remind myself to read them from time to time, I get so low.
I think about the amount of lying and planning...thinking that she must have been really something for him to make this much effort.
But when their nasty trysts were found out, whoa! Whorestein was thrown WAAAAY under the bus. She lost her job, and a lot of work friends. Her parents and siblings are ashamed that she is a common whore, (I told them in person!) Some of her employers now know she will suck dick for a job...OUCH!
And he is in overdrive trying to make things right. We are getting better, 15 months out from DD.
So thanks from the bottom of my broken heart.
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Member # 35104
| Posted: 12:24 PM, August 23rd (Thursday), 2012|
Bumped. Six months out and needed to read this again!!!
Married 14 years, together for 20
BS Me - 42
WS Husband - 43
Two Kids 8 & 9
DDay 3/15/12 8 month EA. PA for 5 of those months.
Posts: 163 | Registered: Mar 2012
Member # 35973
| Posted: 9:15 AM, August 27th (Monday), 2012|
Bump love this
M-12 yrs together 14 yrs, 2 DS 11 & 8
D-Day 20 May '12 WH confessed, PA 4 months 06/2008-10/2008 cOW
His A says nothing about me but everything about him
Posts: 239 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: UK
Member # 18128
| Posted: 11:44 AM, September 2nd (Sunday), 2012|
I need to read this every so often to remind myself what it says! Thanks!
Posts: 178 | Registered: Feb 2008
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Member # 36610
| Posted: 11:53 AM, September 2nd (Sunday), 2012|
I needed this last week when I read it for the first time.
Together 12 years, married 4; 2 very young children 3 yrs and 4 weeks at time of DD.
Struggling immensely with the road to hopeful R.
Posts: 43 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Missouri
Member # 21623
| Posted: 11:35 PM, September 7th (Friday), 2012|
Read this again and feel much better.
THANK you so much for sharing!
♥ One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz
Posts: 1856 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Texas
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Member # 31086
| Posted: 12:23 AM, September 8th (Saturday), 2012|
Thanks I needed to read that today. My self esteen has taken a beating lately and it is not all A related.
In three words I can sum up everything Iíve learned about life ó It goes on. óRobert Frost
Posts: 196 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: VA
Member # 36104
| Posted: 9:29 PM, September 23rd (Sunday), 2012|
M-12yrs Together 15 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster
How will see the great things ahead of us if we keep looking back at the bad things behind us?
Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: My heart is at the beach
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Member # 34843
| Posted: 5:04 AM, September 24th (Monday), 2012|
Very well said!
Posts: 7 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: MA
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Member # 36897
| Posted: 2:54 PM, September 25th (Tuesday), 2012|
married for 2 1/2 yrs
together for 4 yrs
children : 2
Status: He wants R, I want S/D.
Posts: 33 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: deeplyblue
Member # 26133
| Posted: 11:58 AM, September 28th (Friday), 2012|
Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.
Posts: 4960 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Member # 36969
| Posted: 9:26 PM, September 28th (Friday), 2012|
Thank you for this. In the case of my WH it most certainly rings true. Just need to remind myself when I'm stuck on what he thought was so great about her.
DDay: October 7, 2011
Posts: 113 | Registered: Sep 2012
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Member # 36790
| Posted: 12:56 AM, September 29th (Saturday), 2012|
Haha wow this is sooo true of my WH and the OW. She is trash and truthfully nowhere near as attractive as I am. WH has even said she is nothing special. Yet he can't give her up. They can just be trash together then.
Married 10yrs, together 15yrs
Daughter 9, son 3mos
Status: stuck in the same house, but I saw the lawyer and filing for D!
"Nothing is permanent in this wicked world...not even our troubles!" Charlie Chaplin
Posts: 37 | Registered: Sep 2012
Member # 32309
| Posted: 5:44 PM, September 30th (Sunday), 2012|
This post brings so much comfort to us all. In my case the O@W was indeed shorter, fatter, and definately uglier than I am. My FWH even said at the very beginning of my discovery that she was nowhere near as glamorous as me. Dumbass
Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver
Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK
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Member # 36851
| Posted: 6:02 PM, September 30th (Sunday), 2012|
THANK YOU!! Wow did I need that today, after getting a nice helping of TT with "I fell in love with her over the summer, just before I told you..." "But I didn't really love her, I love you. " Umm...?
In the Costco Parking Lot! sheesh.
this is a great post, thanks so much.
Me-53, married 23 yrs, 25 yr relationship; PA at his HS reunion, year + of s/texting, phone, Facebook; CraigsLIst postings, Ashley Madison, OKCUpid account, Adult slut sites..... "I never used them!!".
Posts: 39 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 36923
| Posted: 8:40 PM, October 1st (Monday), 2012|
Yeah, my FWH had an affair with a woman 20 years my junior. I was prepared for a truly beautiful woman.
Instead, I was thrilled to discover a frumpy, obese woman sporting chia pet hair whilst wearing a tent dress for a shirt. She pushed a dinky cart of books around at the library.
It was also refreshing to discover that she doesn't look much younger than I do.
Me: Survivor! BS (47)
Him: WH (45)
2 kids, 13 & 16
Married 15 yrs, together 20.
2 yr LTA, probably many more affairs, ONS. D-Day June 1, 2012. Then, physical abuse began.
WH's been seeking attention from other women thru our whole marriage
Posts: 64 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: evephoebe1
Member # 35619
| Posted: 10:34 AM, October 6th (Saturday), 2012|
D final 8/2012
Posts: 3370 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
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Member # 37087
| Posted: 6:12 PM, October 9th (Tuesday), 2012|
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