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User Topic: Honey, they always affair down
fooled09
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, September 27th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with this post.
However, I would like to add that sometimes the WS is actually being pursued by the OW with full intent on making her move on them.
I feel that the WS is having thier ego stroked the right way by the wrong person.
I must say that I believe that it takes 2 people to have an A but this is just another perspective on how this could come about.


Don't let your past rob you of your present or future.

Posts: 26 | Registered: Mar 2010
AttemptStrength
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, October 8th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS

I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.


Posts: 1992 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Wisconsin
phoenix_vs
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, October 18th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We need this up front again. It helps me feel better about myself, and that is a challenge when you've been pushed aside for an old girlfriend from ten years ago. He says all she did was complain. Wonder why he wanted to listen to her for another 1200 minutes? And all behind my back. Huh. Ya, I'm still upset.


I'm not sad that you lied to me. I'm sad that I can never believe you again.

Well, I'm sad that you lied to me, too.


Posts: 371 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Great Falls Montana
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, October 18th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It always makes me smile when I see this one bumped I am still angry, too, Phoenix...


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/34 The kidlets: DS14, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

Posts: 11596 | Registered: Dec 2009
takilasunrise
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, October 18th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post is almost a year old and been brought to the top by it's popularity.......and am I glad I got a chance to read it! My WH is packing to move out as I write this, so I really needed to read this. We are separating because he's having a hard time dealing with my emotional rollercoaster. And to top it off, the OW has been contacting (strike that, harassing) him for over a week now......and she is psycho! So, yes, this post is total truth!


BW - Me, 49 years old
WH - Him, 51 years old)
D-Day July 2010 (several D-days to follow)
Divorced February 7, 2012

Denial isn't the way to forgiveness. The Karma for screwing over a good girl is the Bitch you end up with.


Posts: 978 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: WI
AIHAH
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, October 18th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had to stop laughing in order to bump this thread.

The weak do indeed accept what ever "scrap" they can get since they are incapable of hunting on their own!

This made my day!


Giving my best one day at a time and so is my FWH. :)
AIHAH

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WHATDOIDONEXT
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, October 31st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for newbies


DDay Sept 12th 2010.
BW 47.
FWH 46 (Penitent95).
Married 5 years
2 DS's 1 & 3 years old.
2 SDD 17 & 19 years old.

As a phoenix rises from the ashes I to shall rise from embers that were once my old life.I shall rise anew. Stronger, wiser.


Posts: 195 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: UK
Joyslyn
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, October 31st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really well said, DBB. Thank you!

The OW worked for me. I'm the President of the company. She was nothing. But nothing made him feel like something. How sad for them both.

I know my FWH is doing much better these days. Healthier in mind and soul. More whole. Not as broken.

At times of strength, I pray for the OW. How desperate and lonely she must have been. I am long past the days of desiring her demise. She lost everything for the "morsels" my FWH would toss her way. She lost her self-respect (if she ever had any); her job/income; her peers/friends at work. Probably her identity.

My life is forever changed because of what they did. But I'm okay. Two years later now... and I'm able to get through my nights without nightmares, and my days without tears. Well... some days I still cry. But I am loved. Always was. Even then. She wasn't... and never was.


D-Day: 4/6/09, Holy Week
A lasted 7 months.
M 8 years. Together 11 years.
My 2nd M. His 3rd M.
2 kids each - 24, 17, 15, 14
0 kids together
bs 45 (me)
wh 55
ow 51

Posts: 40 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Chicago Suburbs
StepAside
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, October 31st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very well said. Truley a light in these days of darkness. I especially approve of the use of the term 'herd' My WS MOW really is a cow, in all senses of the word.


Me 48yrs, king of douchebagastan- 50yrs STD infected bankrupt NPD sociopathic drunk thief
countless A's, he is a predator that targets losers like himself
Last Dday 04/12/2010-Divorcing if/when his cumdumpsters lend him some $ or balls to file

Posts: 1522 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
StepAside
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, October 31st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oops double post

[This message edited by StepAside at 7:47 PM, October 31st (Sunday)]


Me 48yrs, king of douchebagastan- 50yrs STD infected bankrupt NPD sociopathic drunk thief
countless A's, he is a predator that targets losers like himself
Last Dday 04/12/2010-Divorcing if/when his cumdumpsters lend him some $ or balls to file

Posts: 1522 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
Pepper_95
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, October 31st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess my H situation was a semi EA where he took texting too far. She has a face like a horse and is the exact opposite of everything my H appreciates in a woman.

I know openly refer to her as Horseface and he knows who I am talking about.


"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Posts: 186 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: limbo
booger bear
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, November 2nd (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

newbie bump


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18829 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: OK - Hot as hell here !!!!!!
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, November 8th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

neewbie bump!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10101 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
starstruck
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, November 8th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks I needed that again!!


DDay 7/29/2010
Am hoping to reconcile!! Am I crazy or what?
If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves-Thomas Edison

Posts: 323 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Pa
Shoestring
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, November 8th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it no wonder why the OMM's wife hates my wife. He traded UP for his A. His wife ain't nothing to look at and my FWW and his wife know one another.

What I don't know is how to compare me with the OMM other than my FWW said he was bigger than me.

Boy doesn't that make me feel good or what? You can tell where my self esteem is, Huh?


H (me) 73 Nov 7th
WS (her) 71 Aug 6th
A lasted 25+ years
Maybe all our married life?
M 53 yrs on Oct 2
OMM - Same age as WS
They were Hi school sweethearts
D-day March 27, 2008
Children grown Son 48 D 44


Posts: 656 | Registered: Aug 2008
3boysmom
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, November 8th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks! Love this!


BS (Me) 44 STBX WH 40 two boys, 5 and 6 (plus my 20 year old son)
D-Day Oct 6, 2010 (EA)
D-Day #2 Nov 13, 2010 (found out about PA)
Moved on, and moved out 9 months later

Posts: 452 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Michigan
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

a bump for DearLord and other newbies

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 10:26 AM, November 9th (Tuesday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10101 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
SisterMilkshake
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Target  Posted: 10:27 AM, November 9th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10101 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, November 10th (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Newbie Bump!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10101 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, November 11th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump bump



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

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