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User Topic: Things that every WS needs to know
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, October 15th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for a newbie.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2824 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, October 19th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP

Posts: 6684 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
carey
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, October 19th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

glad this was bumped! Everyone suffering from infidelity will find this helpful. Glad I saw this. Thanks


me(BW) 41
him (WH) 40
D-day 1/17/12
together for 22yrs, married 12 yrs.
2 children ages 10 & 5
You can close your eyes
to the things you don't
want to see. You can't close
your heart to the things you don't want to feel.

Posts: 540 | Registered: Jun 2012
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, October 24th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump...good stuff!


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1134 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
SecondHelping
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Member # 36796
Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, October 25th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Both WW and I read this tonight. What a great article.


D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern

Posts: 492 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, October 30th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for a newbie.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6335 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, November 6th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
longroadhome
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Member # 32428
Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, November 15th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped for the newbies


Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known

It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier


Posts: 547 | Registered: Jun 2011
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, November 29th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for Noah.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2824 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, December 4th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
lumpygravy
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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, December 5th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope it's not inappropriate that I comment as a BS, but I shared this with my WW last night. The most surprising part was how much I cried. I couldn't control it.

It was good though.


BS: Me
FWS: Her
M: 17 Years
Daughter: 15
EA
DD: 8/2006
Getting through real recovery.

Posts: 93 | Registered: Aug 2006
LSH1
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, December 6th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Copied and emailed this to my WH. Then a list of some my triggers. Please bump this.


(Me)BS&W: 39
(Him)WS&H: 36
(Her)HW: 39
Married 13 1/2 years
2 Girls 13 & 7 yrs
A: At least 2 years PA and 4 EA
D-Day: 7/2/2012

Posts: 34 | Registered: Dec 2012
Inwaiting
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, December 8th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sent link to my WS three days ago hoping that it might spark understanding and a conversation. All that it did though manage to re-traumatize me in that there is only silence on the topic sprinkled with me I supposedly nagging that he hasn't read/or addressed it with me and him saying he's working on reading it (while spending all day online). I'm tired of being depressed. It's a great post and I truly believe both clinically and personally that much of it is exactly how couples can and do heal. Thanks for posting it.


For there is much pain that is quite noiseless...

Posts: 4 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: LA
madeincanada
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, December 8th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank You as well, so much there, so true .... we read it together and held each other...we want so badly to heal and start our new life.

Rejoice in your renewed commitment to spend your lives together in happiness. Celebrate it together regularly!

If the R couple can't do that then they will never truly reconcile.

One of the most wonderful and loving things we have done is write a renewed marraige contract, remembering to love laugh and dance is in there. It's 4 pages and growing


Posts: 16 | Registered: Dec 2012
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, December 27th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17917 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
longroadhome
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, December 30th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for imsorry1


Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known

It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier


Posts: 547 | Registered: Jun 2011
Missingmyhusband
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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, December 31st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a FWW trying my hardest to find the ways to show my husband I am committed to doing everything I can to save our marriage and become the best wife and mother I can be, I find this post to be very insightful and helpful. It's paved a path for us to walk on, it lets us know what we have put our loved ones thru and how we, as WS can be the support for them that we once were not. Thank you so much for this. It is more help to those of us struggling than you know.


Me 25 WS
Him 26 BS
1 child 2yrs old
Dday 11/15/2012
Wanting to save my marriage

Posts: 1 | Registered: Dec 2012
SandAway
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, January 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Giving this a bump ~ Does no good on the bottom of the 3rd page for new WS's...


fWW
BH Tred
M 16yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people


Posts: 439 | Registered: Dec 2012
BIZZYBEEZ
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, January 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just handed this to my H & asked him to please read. He's doing a lot of the things listed already but not quite sure he truly understands the level of my devastation. Thank you for posting one of the best things I've read in a week.


BW (me) - 47
WH (him) - 39
DDay - 10/22/2012 (worst day of my life)

Learning to breathe again - one day at a time


Posts: 235 | Registered: Nov 2012
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, January 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


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