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User Topic: Things that every WS needs to know
stilllovemywife
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, July 29th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an amazing post. Spot on. I don't think I could express how I feel any better than what you have here. These are exactly the things I need. I am printing this to give to WW. I hope she reads it, gets it, and uses it.

Truly amazing. Thank you.


Posts: 113 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: United States
stilllovinghim
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Member # 29971
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, August 1st (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP!!!


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

Posts: 1942 | Registered: Oct 2010
andywalks
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Member # 32897
Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, August 1st (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh do I need to reread this and be reminded. Thanks. Its so hard to listen! I'm so drained.


Me WS 45
Him BS 45
Married 24 years
D-Day 21 May 2011
3 sons 11, 17, 18

Posts: 15 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: southeast us
Offhispedestal
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Member # 32528
Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, August 3rd (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is EXACTLY how I feel. I wish I could get by H to read this.We are in R but there is more than 1 DD. So the NC has been NC as far as I know. I think it may take me longer to heal because there are still things that I know that he has not brought up on his own. Me bringing it up will only cause an argument and Im tired of arguing. Its only been 1 month since NC(emails,text) its been longer NC ,H has not been with her physically in months. Maybe one day he will read this. HE HATES TO READ.


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 631 | Registered: Jun 2011
MrsSprky99
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Member # 32895
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 3rd (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely amazing post...and a must see for any WS. Speaks volumes when sometimes us BS can't! THANK YOU!!!!


BW (me) - 47
WH (him) - 53
Married - 14 years
3 Children - 25, 24 from first relationship & 10 y/o with WH
D-Day: June 11, 2011

Posts: 78 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Northern IL
Mommy23
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Member # 32646
Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, August 10th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the best and most accurate description of exactly what I, BS, have been feeling!! I emailed it to my WS and he is reading it as I sit here. It is PERFECT and I think many would agree.
Once a WS reads this, they cannot claim they do not know what to do to help heal the pain they have created.

Posts: 27 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Los angeles
Textbook Case
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, August 22nd (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BW- me
FWH- 5-year EA/PA plus really poor boundaries with coworkers
Married 30 years (college sweethearts)
Reconciling...

Posts: 2735 | Registered: Jul 2009
bestbecameworst
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Member # 31507
Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, August 23rd (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What do you do when you give this link to your WS and they don't read it, it's too long, then you never hear back...

[This message edited by bestbecameworst at 5:49 PM, August 23rd (Tuesday)]


Me: BS
Together since 1997, married Jan 2010, EA started Feb 2010, PA June 2010
D-day1 Oct 20 2010 / D-day2 Oct 21 2010 and following week / found this site Mar 2011
He didn't do work to reconcile.
DIVORCED in 2014 and HAPPY!

Posts: 595 | Registered: Mar 2011
RKT429SS
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Member # 28883
Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, August 24th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What do you do when you give this link to your WS and they don't read it, it's too long, then you never hear back...

You 180. Big time!


Me - BS 38
Her - WS 37
MOM - coworker,with 2 kids, EA&PA approx. 6 mo
Us Married 10 yrs (together 15 yrs)
1 girl, 1 boy
DDay 3.15.2010
Working on R

Posts: 216 | Registered: Jun 2010
Dallas2
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Member # 28362
Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, August 25th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HUFI-PUFI:

Thank you for you post. It has helped my FWS understand where I was at and believe me without this we would not have celebrated our 20th Anniversary or be looking forward to a future together.

Thank you again


Me

Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2010
betrayer47
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Member # 28957
Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, August 26th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for HUFI


Posts: 247 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: MN
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, September 13th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9539 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
starstruck
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Member # 29547
Exclaimation  Posted: 5:13 AM, September 16th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 7/29/2010
Am hoping to reconcile!! Am I crazy or what?
If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves-Thomas Edison

Posts: 323 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Pa
hathnofury
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Member # 32550
Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, September 26th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump. And thanks, OP.


BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.

Posts: 1466 | Registered: Jun 2011
fromthisdayfwd
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Member # 30634
Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, October 2nd (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Married 8/20/1994
Betrayed
DDay 6/23/2010
A gift is not given if it has been demanded.

Failure to attempt is failure.


Posts: 444 | Registered: Jan 2011
lostandloster
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, October 3rd (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a new BS who just had his own DD about a week ago.

I want you to know that that post is the most beautiful thing that I've read and I so wish my WW would do these things.

I hurt so bad, that post made me cry terribly.

I pray that many WS read this, learn and understand.


Posts: 19 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: sacramento
Birima
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Member # 33519
Default  Posted: 4:15 AM, October 4th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear all,

Thank you for posting this important first aid kid that should be of use the rest of our live.


Me WH
She BW
Married for 7 YRS
D-Day 09/16/11
OC born December 4th 2011
No R yet

Posts: 104 | Registered: Oct 2011
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, October 11th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9539 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
CF1111
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Member # 33577
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, October 13th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read this today and think it's awesome. Hit the nail on the head with everything I'm going through. Emailed it to my WW, but she's too tired to read it tonight she says. Ugh! Hoping for a 180 tomorrow when she reads it. Thanks for posting.


Me BS
Her WW
OM neighbor
Married 8 yrs
Kids (2)
D-Day 01/2011
Trying to R, failing lately

Posts: 83 | Registered: Oct 2011
Sandcrab
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, October 18th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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