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toooldtoknow
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The "divorce" was tongue in cheek. I am thinking about getting rid of the rings (which I love dearly) and buying a new set of rings.


Me:BS 68
Her:WS 64(gigi45)
Four affairs
Lots of questions but one thing for sure: I love her.
Opportunity may knock once,
But temptation bangs on the front door forever.

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Troi
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i wish i couldn't but i know that feeling well, for me the ow was well put in place way way before i ever met my ws....and yes it totally sucks when you don't have a before.....

Yes, iwantamiracle....we have no "before" either. Maybe a three month time period when he was only loving me.

:(

I'm starting this new year though hoping it will be the best ever for our relationship...I consider our whole past together up to D-Day to be a lie....


me BS-39
him WS-42
2004-2009 our relationship was a lie
D-Day 2/25/2009
R..is going great!

"But it's only on the brink that people find the will to change. Only at the precipice do we evolve." Professor Barnhardt to Klaatu.


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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might be wee bit prejudice there.

True, I might be. However, people IRL know that I am VERY honest. Not only do I know what my H said about her, but I have seen photos.

FYI, when my first daughter was born, she was breathtakingly beautiful. But my second daughter (who is beautiful now at age 17) was born, she wasn't very pretty. I told one of the nurses at the hospital that, and she was appalled. I responded that I loved my sweet baby girl, but I wasn't so prejudiced as to believe she was beautiful when she wasn't. I NEVER told either of my girls what I said, but my younger daughter has looked at her newborn photos and exclaimed that she was not a pretty baby.

She was sweet and fun, but not pretty at birth. As I said, she is now beautiful, and while I am prejudiced, I am also honest.

If there is one thing that was reinforced by my H's A it is the need to be honest.


DDay 1--Feb 99
Crappy IC, false R--spring 1999
A ended around April, 2003
DDay 2--September 26, 2004
DDay 3--September 26, 2005 when I found out the REST of the truth
8/8/09--Doing very well due to hard work on my and H's part

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toooldtoknow
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If there is one thing that was reinforced by my H's A it is the need to be honest.

I hope that is true for us also. In my questioning of my WW I asked some silly questions. Like how do I compare with penis size? She told me that I was not any longer than any of the others but that I had more girth. She said I was the only one she was sure reached a climax because of my girth and how big I got during climax. Probably no big deal in the scheme of things but it did give me a feeling of superiority over the others.


Me:BS 68
Her:WS 64(gigi45)
Four affairs
Lots of questions but one thing for sure: I love her.
Opportunity may knock once,
But temptation bangs on the front door forever.

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fairyfriend
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We take our victories, however small--or not! --where we find them.


DDay 1--Feb 99
Crappy IC, false R--spring 1999
A ended around April, 2003
DDay 2--September 26, 2004
DDay 3--September 26, 2005 when I found out the REST of the truth
8/8/09--Doing very well due to hard work on my and H's part

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

troi; i wish i had even that...i have nothing....i have the knowledge too that through most of my marriage, he had sex with me while he made love to her, #1....i became a hole...

i am so damned fustrated with this fucking man....i am so tired of his,"we are going to reconcile", "i love you and only you, i am in love with you", "i know we can make it", and one of my favorites.."if you can just get over this anger, i know we can be better then ever"...and so on and so on....where was all of these professions when we were having problems with his fucked up family, NNNOOOOO...he protected them, he protected himself, he even protected #2 the fucking judge...the judge who he said was disgusting....she was only really good for phone sex because then he didn't hae to look at her....meanwhile he still had no problems getting it up when he did give her the mercy fucks......i hate him....at least i did tell him that i have every intention of getting over the anger....and when i do there will still be no future for "us"....this was all prompted by my finally being able to destroy some xmas ornaments that meant something to me, each one that i picked out and personalized for "us" through the years...he always recieved them with a "oh, thats nice" attitude....i took a hammer to a few and used my bare hands on the others....i destroyed them the way he destroyed "us"....i look forward to being able to look him in the eye one day and tell him that i moved on in ALL ways....and it will happen.....i am so damned angry and i am so damned sad.....but i have 3 great kids, 3 great healthy kids....my mantra.....

o.k. sorry people end of rant, for now anyways...


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

totk:

I asked some silly questions.

no question is silly, especially depending on how its answered...i am very happy for you that she answered you in a very positive way.....

troi:

I'm starting this new year though hoping it will be the best ever for our relationship...I consider our whole past together up to D-Day to be a lie....

you did have 3 months, dont lose those...and i am prayin for ya....i hope it is the bestest...

fairyfreind: i too have that knack for honesty....i always was one to say things like you did about your daughter....in looks and in brains...i consider myself a realist...so ironic considering that my entire marriage was based on fantasy..


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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gigi45
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totk had the wedding rings made in 2001. They contains stones from my engagement ring, my great-grandmother's ring, and a new stone. I understand his feelings about them now and have put them away for safekeeping, believe our daughter should have the historic stones. We have talked about renewing our wedding vows, and I hope that we will do that sometime in the future, when totk feels more secure in my NC and transparency and devotion to him.

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toooldtoknow
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IWAM:

no question is silly, especially depending on how its answered...i am very happy for you that she answered you in a very positive way.....

I need all the positives I can get.

I see in you a lot of hate and distrust for H and the OP's. I can feel the same about the OP's from WW's As. I try to remember that WW made the decisions regardless of what others did. She takes full blame also and that's good for repair of relationship.
Have you tried prayer? We have resorted to praying almost at the drop of a hat. We even pray before making love (maybe I pray for an erection...lol). I do think that sometimes you just need to give it all up to God and let him help you out.


Me:BS 68
Her:WS 64(gigi45)
Four affairs
Lots of questions but one thing for sure: I love her.
Opportunity may knock once,
But temptation bangs on the front door forever.

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toooldtoknow
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing that gigi45 and I struggle with is how can you love someone one day and on D-day you no long love them? Hard to understand.
The other thing I am having problems with is if I should pursue finding out about fathering of children. I love all three and don't want to disrupt that relationship. The younger who is most in doubt has been a joy for me. He was an all stater in baseball and played on a national championship college team. Drafted by the Astros but became hurt and his career was ended. He has gone on to finish the Chicago Marathon. As you can see I am proud of what he has done. Just not sure how to handle all of this. All three of our children have become successful and I feel pride in each. I have thought about putting DNA with a note in a lock box, so after I am gone the kids can make that decision.

[This message edited by toooldtoknow at 3:32 PM, January 2nd (Saturday)]


Me:BS 68
Her:WS 64(gigi45)
Four affairs
Lots of questions but one thing for sure: I love her.
Opportunity may knock once,
But temptation bangs on the front door forever.

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

totk: you are right i do harbor alot of hate for my h and his women....i hope one day to let it all go, i am actively working on it....i ride this rollercoaster way way too often...but i have managed to keep some semblance of a sense of humor, which i find soothing for the soul...

gigi: those rings do sound like they would be a priceless heirloom for your daughter...

totk: my thoughts on the paternity sich..

no matter how you slice it you consider these boys to be "YOURS"....no dna is going to change that...you raised them, you loved them and still do, you were their dad, the only dad they have ever known....i don't think you need the results for any of that....you may want the results just to put it to rest in your head....now this is where you and only you can make this decision...you need to sit down with a piece of paper, make 2 lists, 1 for finding out which need to be divided into 2 coloummns, and one for not finding out and again divide into 2 coloumns...now each column is for the pro's and con's for each decision...what your choices will now be regarding the outcome....and then the hard part...where will the most regrets lie....

and as far as leaving these kind of results for your children, i think it is dependent...is knowledge of medical history a factor....if it is, or you think it could be then i am sorry that this is something they need to know....its a much different scenario if a medical history is needed...all doctors take an account of family history...

i think your kids will be blown away by this though...especially if they don't know any of this...its a really difficult decision...one i am glad i don't have to make...

my h ow#1 did have a baby a year before my first...my h is so sure he is not the dad,...me though...i don't know...this goes back about 19 years...he has no way of knowing for sure....his so called memory sucks....


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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toooldtoknow
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IWAM
I bet if we all put our stories together it would be a best selling novel. BTW. Thank you for your take on the paternity issue.


Me:BS 68
Her:WS 64(gigi45)
Four affairs
Lots of questions but one thing for sure: I love her.
Opportunity may knock once,
But temptation bangs on the front door forever.

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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, January 3rd (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One thing that gigi45 and I struggle with is how can you love someone one day and on D-day you no long love them? Hard to understand.

TOTK,
I am assuming here that your mean your WW's love for OM?
In time, she (and you) will realise that this was no love, as you know it (look up 'limerance'). Dont equate what you have IRL with what she shared with them in a fantasy life.

Re the paternity tests, that is a tough one. I second what Miracle said re the importance of knowing your medical history. This should not affect your relationship with your boys because they are still YOUR boys. However, opening that door to them does also mean opening the door to involvement with the OM. Then again, the boys might all be your biological sons and this would be a moot dicussion!

***
Miracle,

but i have 3 great kids, 3 great healthy kids....my mantra.....

And you are one great human being.

***
((((((Tribe))))))


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: London, UK
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, January 3rd (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

totk and Troi, welcome. I tend to spend more time in LTA and reading in the recon because I am waaaay too sensitive to take the bashing that can occur in some other places. You’ll find us a helpful and non-bashing bunch. We all wear the same t-shirt and know what you are going through.

totk, I have a FWH with amnesia about the past. Some of it I can understand, some I just think he’s choosing to withhold info from me. There was two plus years of trickle truth before I gave up and realised he was never going to tell me. the result is that I have formed my own picture of our past and believe he was far more involved than he said and that he had two previous affairs to the major one with MOW. But I’ve stayed. The whole landscape of our marriage has changed and it’s a lot more sparse and barren that it was before. Not much growing there right now. So, I would say to gigi to get into therapy and see how much she can dig up. If you want to know, then it’s only fair that she has the info at her fingertips. Here in the UK there is a directory of qualified counsellors and each lists their field of speciality. You could try googling a combination of those words and see what comes up. Otherwise, your GP or pastor may be able to point you in the right direction. It’s looking good for you so far. Other than that, I would say the same as miracle and get a paternity test. Although I assume your kids don’t know, so that might be awkward. Again, something for counselling. However, if there are medical issues that may surface in the future, the child concerned does have a right to know, imho. Having said that, you were and will always be the father in their eyes. Sperm donation is just that, whereas being a father is an unconditional and all inclusive lifetime responsibility.

my H's OW's H married an ugly woman.
Not only do I know what my H said about her, but I have seen photos.
Hey FF, same here! The nauseating poetry that said far more to me than any photograph. And then when I met her…… I was shocked at how old she looked, how frumpy and dumpy she was, her lined and pale skin, blah, blah. But it doesn’t matter how she looks, she could be a vision of beauty, but whatever, one thing I do know - she’s sure fugly on the inside, so who cares what she looks like on the outside.

So here we are in 2010. I can’t believe I have survived another Christmas and New Years Eve. I honestly believed I would be whole again by the first Christmas – I made it my goal. But this is the first when I haven’t cried. Shed a few tears at some pointedly poignant and sad moments, but overall, it was okay. I have accepted the affair, but I haven’t and won’t forgive the deliberate and calculated way he went about it, I haven’t forgiven that he still hasn’t given me the truth or that he refuses to open up about previous affairs. Perhaps he thinks letting me see a little into one Pandora’s box is enough.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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toooldtoknow
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Thanks for the response to paternity and medical history.
Gigi is adopted and we don't know her family medical history anyway. The possible sperm donor is 72 years old and in good health. Other then that I don't know his family med history. But I would think that the med history at this point probably is not a major factor for the kids.


Me:BS 68
Her:WS 64(gigi45)
Four affairs
Lots of questions but one thing for sure: I love her.
Opportunity may knock once,
But temptation bangs on the front door forever.

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, January 4th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

totk...i saw your post on pfm's thread...you are very cute and i get the impression that you are a fixer, someone who likes to smooth things over if possible...

the paternity thing: gigi's medical history is not the one that needs to be looked at, it would be yours and the om's.....he may be in good health but that does not mean that there is no history..take my fil, he is in good health however his father died at the age of 52 ish of a heart attack...important info...especially now since pfm has been diagnosed with corotid artery...his history played a factor in treatment...

i'm sorry...

ukgirl: i have only seen 2 of the 4, with exception to the freind whom he got no where...the freind is very attractive...

#1...well i am sure when they started over a quarter century ago she was probably o.k. and maybe even pretty...but what counted was that pfm found her to be very pretty and attractive and a total turn on..

#2 ...i saw this judge, she looks like a grandmother, not attractive at all, and he never found her so, but she still could turn him on anyways....

#3 and #4 i have no clue what these women look like....

and i believe all of them (don't know about #4) all have big boobs...something i do not have...

they actually all look quite different based on his descriptions, and all have different ethnicities...he was/is a bit of a racist...i guess that didn't apply to women you want to have sex with...maybe that was the thou dost protest to loudly thing....

i saw your post on whether or not the marriage was better when the affair was going well...can't give input there...for us it was always foo issues that determined the way the marriage was going...


totk: would your wife try hypnosis to jog her memory??


lh2: thank you as always for your constant words of encouragement...

so what'd doin with you my friend...how did your nye/ny go?


as always
(((((tribe))))
and ((((lurkers too))))


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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Hey guys… I thought I would drop in and check up on everyone. I hope all is well…

Now 16 months out from Dday… still think poison everyday. I was hoping by not visiting would somehow help me… Not yet… lol. Hard not to think about this crap when you read about a lover killings in the local newspaper… And the TV is just loaded with infidelity is OK from those nut heads in Hollywood. I still wonder if I will ever get just ONE DAY where mind is at true peace. Off those AD’s now. I do think they helped me tremendously. It was kind of strange as I started to take less and less… The best way to describe it was slight “brain shock” … yes, I mean an electrical shock in a physical sense. Anyway.. My New Year’s resolution is to continue to be work toward a being a better person. I can honestly look at myself and know I have change for the better. With me still living in so much pain, I can now truly appreciate inner peace. It’s not that I’m not happy much of the time, it’s a strange feeling… and I know am more compassionate toward others, more giving to those in need. Some things I did this Christmas have brought me some good feelings. I now know how and what to do to have a more healthy relationship. Oh well

Iwantamiricle.. So 2010 is the year you divorce? “i will disconnect permanently from pfm.” My best friend says it will take about another 8-12 months of pain, but that will eventually get peace… Some guy would love to have you. Limbo is like an infected cut that cannot heal.

Toooldtoknow and Troi… Sorry to see you here…
TO – I too could have been you. I thank God he sent me this letter to let me know. I guess it was time. My 25 year anniversary is this coming in April.. my trusting sole and job makes it easy for LTA… I still cannot “get it” is how someone can live a life like that? That is part of my daily thinking... why do I even care at this point? Fear of a repeat I guess. I struggle daily with the fact I don’t want to be here again when I am 60 years old. Although today, I am much wiser now and I have boundaries that will never be crossed again to protect my happiness.

Hey Dip..You given me some good thoughts… now I give you one… never use sex as a punishment. Just let it go. It’s only money. We can only think that if she truly loves you, she won’t do that again.

Peace out UK, ff,. LH, lost, weep… and all the other cougars I forgot to mention!


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Hey tryn.

I have been wondering about you. I thought about you concerning the colts these past few weeks. I do hope you are not here when you are 60. This A crap is hard to get away from.

Thanks for the advice. I really was not trying to punish her as much as I was not wanting to have anything to do with her. You are right, it is just money. I will not see that money again, but that does not matter. The betrayal is pissing me off.

I can not believe that it has bothered me as much as it has. This has been so similar to the A D-days. I even have had several triggers about this.

She has been very contrite and remorseful, but she is a bit confused that I was/am bothered by it. She has told me to go and buy a few pretty expensive items that I have had my eye on. Of course I see that as strange because I could have done that anyway.

Here is one that Dear miracle Abby will enjoy analyzing. New years, my W says, "It is a new year, lets make it better. We need to wipe the slate clean." I wish it was that simple.

miracle.

Keep your sense of humor too. Please.

My W claims that OM#2 & OM#3 were not near as good looking as I am. I never got the chance to meet them so who knows? OM#1 was not bad. I knew him, but I am not a real good judge about how hot a man is. Just not interested in them.

Now about those boobs. I think I said before that no matter the size or the shape, they are all good.

UKgirl.

Thanks for the pictures. Also thanks for the description. Oh my! Hot & Hot.

totk & gigi45.

Hello & welcome.

Troi, Lh2 & FF.

Greetings to you too.

The shortest day of the year was Dec 21 of last year. The days are getting longer. Before long it will be spring!


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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Hey toooldtoknow... I just read your wife's journal. It is identical to my wife's comments.. "I don't know why", "I always loved you" "I never wanted to hurt you" "I can't remember"

I think you both are in a "shock" right now. After dday... you both will start to grieve. Please try hard to keep your mind during the anger stage... If you both can make it through that, I think you have a strong chance to finish your life together in a mature love you likely have never known.... I think I am now is stage 5... after 16 months past Dday. I see many hints of things to come if my wife can get out of her depression.

This is what you guys will go through...

1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.

2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.

You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.

You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")

4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.

During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.

7 Stages of Grief...

5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.

I found this a while back.

I think LTA are people that have somewhat a good relationship but fails because one of them have a disposition to cheat. This is why your wife didn't leave. My wife and all her bothers had a "disposition to cheat" They are cheaters because they have no self control. As for why a woman wants to have an A... it is for the sex, attention, affirmation, etc. Myself, I want to spread my seeds to every pretty lady I see! But I don't nor ever did. I had some decency. I don't judge anyone though because I too could have fallen prey to infidelity. Just one aggressive woman could have had me. My greed, ego, would have take over. I believe it is much harder for a woman to say no. You and I know these men out here... so aggressive, so selfish, braggers about the woman the fuck. Infidelity... It is because of the greed, selfishness... self satisfaction... a fat cat. All those feeling we love to have in lust, new love, romance!


And if you made it this far in my post... about May or June.. goto this.. http://www.retrouvaille.org/
I think you both will love it... it will help.

peace out my brother...

[This message edited by trynhard at 5:40 PM, January 4th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, January 4th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was furious yesterday that I found out for certain my h was lying. Even as far into the middle of Aug 2009, he was out near her home (which I mistakenly call east-her town when it is really west-her town...Im directionally challenged).

Im very emotional as if that hasn't been noticed.

Anyway, so I calmed down, let go of the anger and began to think.

My h is a dog. That's it period. But why would someone who is decent looking, outgoing, who desperately wants to settle down and have a relationship of her own continue to have an affair with a married man? If she wanted to settle down and have a quiet life with her man, wouldn't she have gone after someone who was available? Im baffled.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

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