When the X was in the NYPD, cheating would not have been tolerated in his house; I can't speak for any other precincts. Now, he's a corrections officer and cheating is rampant in his unit; once again, I can't speak for the other units. Also, this information about the prison is anecdotal based on statements by the X; he could have it all wrong
From my own personal experience, the X is not the only police office in my extended family; there are at least 20 others that I know of, but he is the only one that I know has cheated. I could make a fabulous statistic out of that statement, but I won't...
I think you have some severe boundary issues...
I have been in LE for 28 years, seen it all on both sides, devoted family men & women betrayed and the serial cheaters who can't/won't stop.
I think one of the problems is the schedule & weird hours make it easier to be on either side. I know in my case he had so many opportunities due to my being forced over at work. The OW saw her opening and grabbed it.
I now invoke my seniority almost every time, if I don't that thing in the back of my head - where is he, who is he with - makes it hard to concentrate.
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Working on myself through IC, NA meetings, intensive outpatient program, and lots of digging. Praying for R.
My WH told me no big deal! Just wanta to see if he could like everybody else, well he did then said it was just sex!! Oh yeah that made it better!!
I wonder why certain professions don't mandate a sex/marriage counseling program to help these type personalities.
I work in the Medical field where it is also seen among "professionals" to wander. I have not
Guess it's about knowing who you are and what matters
I wish I could understand better why a spouse wanders and what it is about the uniform that makes OW not care if they are married or not
It just makes me sick.
He told Chief that we were D'ing and there was no physical contact. Both of which he knew were lies.
He used his police account to communicate with WW and said some explicit stuff in the emails. (I saved them and gave them to Chief of Police). He still lied.
I know he got a reprimand, but not sure what it was. Whatever it was, he deserved more!!!!!!!!!