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User Topic: Looking for book recommendations...
chasingpavements
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, August 7th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey all, I realized over the past few months I've been so focused on the state of the marriage that I haven't been doing anything for myself. So now I'm going to reverse that and the first thing I need is to pick up some books from the library because I haven't read anything in AGES! So I'm looking for some good fiction recommendations... nothing marriage, relationship, or affair related. Preferably nothing that is a series, unless you can read one book as a standalone because I'm not patient enough to wait for the next book to come out. Young Adult fiction is fine too cause I like being able to share new books with my oldest son who is 13.

thanks!


"I personally believe "the one" - that special partner, the soul mate, that person that becomes intoxicated by love for us -
Well shoot, I think that the one that needs to feel that way is us, for ourselves."
wisdom from Healing Tree

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survivor girl
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, August 7th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really enjoyed "The Secret Life of Bees"---it had the flavor of "To Kill a Mockingbird"


FWW

SAB survivor

"Our doubts are traitors,
And make us lose the good we oft might win
By fearing to attempt." --Shakespeare

"Just DO it" ---Nike

D-Day March 2006


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lingerdog
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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, August 13th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really dug The Shack, but one of my favorite from a while ago is Twilight Eyes by Dean Koontz, I would recommend The Time Travelers Wife, but you said no relationship stuff. The Odd Thomas Books by Dean Koontz, yes they are a series, but I think they work as stand alone books. You might not like the first one, it has a pretty strong relationship at it's center. Any of the John Sandford Prey series, they work as stand alones.


What lies behind us & what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
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teach5
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, August 16th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Power of One- best book ever!

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cd103
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Default  Posted: 5:33 AM, August 17th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers for Sale

Farm City, The Education of an Urban Farmer

blessings, cd


To Do No Harm

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icbtih8
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, August 17th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

does it have to be fiction?

I really loved Outliers. it's an easy and interesting non-fiction read.

If you want fiction, how about Life of Pi?


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broken11
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, August 17th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just finished reading

The Help by Kathryn Stockett and LOVED it. It was one of those can't put down and can't stop thinking about it reads. It also was one of the few books that didn't cause me to trigger, so I think it meets your non affair related material.


Me: BW 30
WH:30
D-day #2 2/26/09
Filed for the big D

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CluelessBlonde
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 21st (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What type of books do you like, chasingpavements? What have you read in the past that you really enjoyed?

If you like historical fiction, I'm just finishing I, Elizabeth by Rosalind Miles. It's a GREAT book if you enjoy historical fiction.

I also really enjoyed The Meaning of Night, A Confession by Michael Cox. It's a mystery/suspense type book. Very well written.

There are a ton of books that I could recommend, if you give me an idea of the types of books that you enjoy.


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If you eat a live toad first thing in the morning, nothing worse can happen for the rest of the day.


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RedheadTX
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, August 21st (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any of the John Sandford Prey series, they work as stand alones.

I'll second this! Love that series!

I also enjoy Catherine Coulter and Patricia Cornwell in the detective/mystery genre.


Me-BS-33
Him-WH-35 (ihatedrphil)
11 yr old daughter
Countless PA and EA
Most recent Dday-4/08 (9 mo. affair w/OW who didn't know he was married)

11/08 - Found out he is still talking to the previous OW as well as at least three others.
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sad&scared
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, August 21st (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is long and historical fiction but amazing!!
The Pillars of the Earth and the sequel World Without End by Ken Follett... quite an undertaking but a great story




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broken11
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, August 21st (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto to the Follett books.

CluelessB, please share your top picks. I read everything and am always looking for new recommendations.

If anyone has a Goodreads list and would like to share feel free to pm me.


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WH:30
D-day #2 2/26/09
Filed for the big D

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neverendinghurt
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, August 21st (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently read The Cellist of Sarajevo and thought it very good. My DD read too and also thought it good.

Do you like comedy? The Stephanie Plum books by Janet Evanovitch are a light read but sometimes laugh out loud funny.

I like mysteries/thrillers

Greg Illes
Karen Slaughter
Lisa Gardner

other authors I enjoy (contemporary fiction)

Jodi Picoult
Chris Bohjalian (sp)



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Scanda
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ADDICTIVE WARNING: Harry Dresden series by Jim Butcher. If you like sci fi, detective novels, adult Harry Potter, with wry humor and wiseass and FUN stuff, please start your new addiction. There are 13 books currently, I started and kept going and I am now reading them over again. I read them so fast I missed stuff. Seriously, they just keep getting better. Vampires, werewolfs, sickos, Chicago, faeries, gangsters and so much more. If I could get any new book it would be one of these. Like comic books for grownups without the comics.

One of my BS best friends brought them to my house, gave me the first three and then like an addict I got the rest. She knew I needed to escape - which these totally helped me do. I never had to leave my room. And yes they stand alone, and your 13 year old, well, maybe. You read them first. THEY ARE SO GOOD!!!

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DDay July 28, 2008
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damagedkitty
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, September 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read Life of Pi recently and really enjoyed it. But that was before all of this so I don't know- it can be sad but really more philisophical in a fiction type of way.

Might be alot since it is three books but you can read them as one- But 'his dark materials' is really good. It is young adult fiction and the movie The golden Compass was based on the first book. Something maybe you can share with your son.


WW- 29 me turned BW
BH- 28 Him turned WH

Married 10/2006
DDay- 7/24/09 for my A
DDay1- 8/21/09 for his 1st OW
DDay 2- 9/14/09 for his 2nd OW

Separated as of 10/16/09
R (?) Currently I don't know


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looking forward
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, October 6th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you like spy/espionage?
If so, anything by Robert Ludlum, Ken Follett.

Outlandish adventure?
Try Clive Cussler books.
They're always fun to read.

Historical fiction that intertwines with modern day through characters?
Try the book, Lady of Hay.

Fiction that chronicles the history of places/countries?
Author: Edward Rutherfurd
Novels include Sarum, London, Russka, Ireland.

Medical thrillers?
Try books by Robin Cook, Tess Gerritsen.

....from a retired librarian


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not_a_martyr
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Default  Posted: 5:05 AM, October 7th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I absolutely second the Stephanie Plum novels, but there is some lightly addressed cheating in them. Depending on where you are in your healing, you can pass over it or it may have a greater impact.

I've just finished The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown. It's REALLY good.

Let us know what you choose.


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ricardoarjona
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Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, October 7th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"the analyst" by JOHN KATZENBACH

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ricardoarjona
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"the analyst" by JOHN KATZENBACH

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ninebark
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, October 7th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read a lot of these reccomendations and agree.

I really enjoyed The Book of Negros. There are a lot of local connections for me as part of it involves the Black Loyalists in NS. They are currently working on turning it into a movie. (there is some relationship in it but nothing that made me trigger)


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WH - 48
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DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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ricardoarjona
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, October 8th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Sebastians Pride" by Susan Wilkinson

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