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User Topic: SI quote thread- Vol 12
jjct
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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, August 9th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think everyone is insane. Except for me, of course.

ms_triv, in a post about the other BS being mad at her for outing the A.


Posts: 6581 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, August 10th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I watched a Discovery Channel show once about slugs...and how they figure slugs don't realize they are the bottom of the food chain. They went on to say that Slugs actually think they are all that and a bag of chips....and to other slugs this seems to be true....
Anyway...I watched this show and when it was over I sat there in my undershorts thinking..."but the fuckers are still slugs even if they are delusional about it"....."but then again if a slug wants to call himself a lion...who am I to say he isn't a lion slug?".....

I am pretty sure you have a lion slug on your hands here....I reccomend that you throw a stick and see if she goes away.......

I would not respond other than the stick thing....if that don't work....I guess you will have to consider buying some "Slug be gone" from Home Depot.......

Basic_Guy in answer to a letter from an unremorseful OW in JFO


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37175 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
neverendinghurt
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, August 11th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At last week's IC session we were briefly discussing impulsive behavior and he advised me to not do anything that would make me sacrifice the "moral high ground".

My response? "Oh puhhhlleeease! I could turn into a prostitute and develop a penchant for necrophilia and STILL not sacrifice the moral high ground here!"

need_hope in general

That must be the best reply to a counsellor ever!

[This message edited by neverendinghurt at 9:11 AM, August 11th (Tuesday)]


The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it.
James M. Barrie

Posts: 26043 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: Seattle
HeartbrokeHope32
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, August 11th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

. Life is too precious to be an asshole.

million tears in R forum...this just hit home for me.


me-29
him-28
Dday-11/07/07
"What lies behind us, and what lies
before us are small matters
compared to what lies within us."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Posts: 4179 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: NH
drowninginsorrow
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, August 13th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To say there does come a point in healing when the hurt becomes a memory only. If I wanted to hurt - I could dig it up, really try to remember it all... and I am sure it would...

Why would I do that.

It is not swept under the rug. It is not buried inside me.

It is a memory - decomposed, buried in the ground - recycling, becoming nutrients for a stable, longer lasting, beautiful garden.

healingtree popping in to give an update on how she's doing



Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics

Posts: 56712 | Registered: Jun 2004 | From: canuckistan
beach
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, August 14th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Last month in Wayward,

there was an exellent post that darkbeast made regarding to forgiving self.

I forgave myself a few months ago. I didn't understand that concept and questioned Fallen about it repeatedly. But I heard a sermon from an old preacher and it all made since. Forgiving yourself is saying "It's over, I am going to change". Self hate is accepting to remain the same.
I am fueled by the burning desire to rescue BB from the disaster that I placed her in. I stewed in self hate for a LONG time and it got me nowhere.


If you don't find peace with yourself, you cannot find anywhere else.
Appreciate and cherish what I have.

Posts: 8680 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: midwest
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, August 15th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A BS posted part of her WS's love letter to the OW. Bethany replied:

The overuse of capital letters makes his douchey-ness sparkle so much brighter, dontchathink?


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, August 18th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TrulyReconciled, in F&G, regarding shaving, in response to:

Women have it a lot worse with legs and whatnot

Not all of them shave their whatnot ...


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, August 18th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find that the most optimistic people are those who aren't in harm's way. When you're being crushed, or the bombs are dropping, you're far less likely to admire the sleek aircraft that are raining them down on you. -Defiance

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=311346


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

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God's hand was an avocado branch


Posts: 14226 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: Chrys a lis
Prayin4Daylight
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, August 28th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't want to be a footless cheap bastard .

Darkbeast in his thread about finding shoes online ....


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Posts: 8444 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: Upstate New York
jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, September 1st (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

cheating is just another weapon they use to prop up their sagging egos.
toonice

Posts: 6581 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, September 2nd (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

See, I think these rules encourage kids to "stuff" their feelings.

I think the world could use a whole lot more stuffing of feelings. We used to call that maturity and manners.

hissadwife on a thread about the Duggers. But made me laugh with the simple elegance of truth!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6583 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
BrokenRoad
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, September 2nd (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On discussing the reasoning behind how many smilies you use, PiQue went on to discuss the number and alluded to some complicated formula. Then in the middle of that:

****No, I-am-NOT-medicated.****


{Him}FBH - 43 (WifeHad5)
{Me} FWW - 43
2 kids 7 & 12
Reconciled :)
Beauty and folly are old companions.--Benjamin Franklin

Posts: 10678 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Midwest
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, September 6th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Friday at work I witnessed a moment of grace which impacted me...let me share?

One of the workers at my company is out on work release - he takes the bus from jail everyday at 4 am and goes back to jail every night and is locked up all weekend...he has been doing this for 6 months and has another YEAR to go! Friday was his child's birthday...and there in the nasty dirty shop where they clean cars...was a folding table, with a plastic tablecloth, streamers and balloons and presents...so this man could spend an hour with his child on thier birthday.

LizXJS


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37175 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, September 10th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

USMC-Wife, while dealing with a bunny boiler:

I'm gonna start a new drinking game. Every time FWH says "I'm so sorry", everyone take a shot.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, September 10th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From USMC-Wife:

She's just sick enough to carry through with her threat to hang herself in our entry way.

And then landabear:

I suppose it would be wholly inappropriate to whack at her like a pinata if she does?


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
beach
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, September 10th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From ListeningClosely in "BS question for FWS" in I Can Relate.

In response to willthiseverend's question -

Is it common to want to reconcile but take a long time to meet the conditions laid down by the BS?

Accountability and Consequences

Requirements of R have no teeth if there are no consequences for not complying. It's like laws that people consistently disobey because "no one ever gets punished for that". The law says the speed limit is 55, but if folks who do 60 aren't issued tickets the outcome is people break the law.

Likewise, if there is no consequence for staying the the OP, a WS will likely continue to do so until they have an either/or choice.

*********************

I liked his speeding ticket analogy.



If you don't find peace with yourself, you cannot find anywhere else.
Appreciate and cherish what I have.

Posts: 8680 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: midwest
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, September 13th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great love requires determination.

tryingtwo

I don't know if I've ever seen this idea put more clearly. It's so simple, and so powerful. Thank you, tryingtwo.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, September 14th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whatever challenge anyone faces - physical or emotional, they have a choice to adapt and overcome, or allow it to define their life and keep them down. ~ Danu


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

*****
God's hand was an avocado branch


Posts: 14226 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: Chrys a lis
HeartbrokeHope32
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, September 16th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would be like saying what is worse...having your heart cut out with a spoon or a fork...it still f*ing hurts.

Rise_Above in discussing which is worse...an Ea or Pa.


me-29
him-28
Dday-11/07/07
"What lies behind us, and what lies
before us are small matters
compared to what lies within us."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

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