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User Topic: N. P.D Thread - Part VI
ScribblingMum
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woundedby2 & MANY of you here:

OMG! I'm reading some of your posts from August & I'm in fecking stitches over here in S. Calif!
IF I knew how to quote your text here (???) I would! The stbx's list of priorities--almost peed the bed right now!!!!!
Gotta find the humor in this crap, I know! Thanks for making me laugh tonight, girls!
I was bawling 5 min. ago...


~ScribblingMum~
D-D 1: 12/23/06 - Porn (dd bust him on-line)
D-D 2: 4-25-08 - Massage P.'s(new act. in pretend recov.)
D-D 3:9-9-08 Caught call m. girl
D-Day 4: 6/30/09 -: free MP g.f./prost.
D-Day 5: 1-10-10: new mp prost's.
~DONE!


Posts: 1529 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: S .CALIF.
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was bawling 5 min. ago...

You and me both. But thanks for giving me a pick-up and a distraction. I sent you a PM. Now the tears are all gone.

(((((Tribe)))))

I posted in D/S about troubles with the kids and how they're being treated when visiting with the pseudo-caring NPD Uberdad and the skank OW. Like wicked step children....

My heart breaks for my kids.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7636 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scribbling - yes, we certainly have kept out sense of humours!! Good job really considering some of the shit that has been thrown our way! We rock!

Hb - Ignore him. He knows the channels of legal communication. You are getting divorced for a reason - so you don't have to communicate with him anymore! Does he not get that???

Wounded - yeah, the ow soon starts to show their real colours! Mine took about a year. I had to tell my dd that ow was insecure because her whole relationship was built on lies etc etc. Way too much info for a ten year old but she seemed to accept it and I thought it was better than her blaming herself in any way. It sucks when ow and freaks start doing this.


Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: england
bobelina
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stuff:
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http://coljennysparks.blogspot.com/2008/03/when-leaders-whine-toxic-leadership-and.html
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BoB


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

Posts: 1817 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Over the Hills and Far Away...
veritas
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HB: I'm with wounded. If Dumbass got a contempt charge, he needs to call the courthouse and see why, if he hasn't been notified already. He probably did not bother to read the charge, and so thinks that you're conspiring against him and this is your doing. Don't give a fuck; don't feel the need to set him straight. Tell him that the court brought the contempt charge against him, and he can find out what it is from them. You are not the one.

(((wounded))) I just read your very heartbreaking account of your children's times with their father. I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

(((lied2))) No advie; just hugs.


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

Posts: 10164 | Registered: Feb 2004
ScribblingMum
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just read an article about LEGAL SEPARATION in CA...see my blog...:)

Someone has said it might help protect me from further debt...apparently not...

Article from web...
anyone?

[This message edited by ScribblingMum at 1:41 PM, October 2nd (Thursday)]


~ScribblingMum~
D-D 1: 12/23/06 - Porn (dd bust him on-line)
D-D 2: 4-25-08 - Massage P.'s(new act. in pretend recov.)
D-D 3:9-9-08 Caught call m. girl
D-Day 4: 6/30/09 -: free MP g.f./prost.
D-Day 5: 1-10-10: new mp prost's.
~DONE!


Posts: 1529 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: S .CALIF.
veritas
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure what exactly you're looking for a legal separation to do. Apparently from reading the article, a legal separation is the first step toward divorce. The article says that it is not an "appropriate" way to handle accumulation of debt; that doesn't mean it's not a perfectly legal way to handle it. I would talk to a lawyer or actually read the law myself.


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

Posts: 10164 | Registered: Feb 2004
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scribbling,

When I filed for D, the "date of separation" was established. This is the date where he actually moved out of the marital home.

There is not supposed to be any messing with marital assets or accumulation of marital debt after this date. Not sure how this is legally handled. The only shenanigans that my freak pulled was trading in of a vehicle and using the equity to purchase a new vehicle (the midlife crisis mobile)in his name only.

You should definitely seek advice from an attorney if you have legitimate concerns with the way marital assets or debt are being handled. You need to protect your interest. You cannot trust the NPD to do the right thing. Evah...


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7636 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tribe--

So, I've called and gotten an appointment for DS at his psychiatrist. Following last night's blow-up, I'm thinking she may want to reevaluate his meds.

Called and got a referral for DD to join DS and I in IC. She does not want to go to counseling, but it is time. She must go.

Spoke to my L's assistant regarding the freak's latest atrocious treatment of my kids. And also his lack of compliance in reimbursing me for his half of expenses that he has agreed to pay for the kids. I could bring contempt charges, but that would cost me like 6 hours of L time. To collect a few hundred dollars...

I'm told this will all be brought up at our hearing. I guess there is light at the end of the tunnel in that regard as well. We may get on calendar soon!! Never soon enough for me....


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7636 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
lied2
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My understanding if legal separation is that it prefents you from being held accountable for any ongoing accumulation of new debt. It would not take away any kind of responsibility for exisiting debt, ie debt from the marriage. Atleast that is how it works here. Where I live we have to have a legal separation before we can file for a divorce. The divorce pretty much only allows a person to get married again other than that it is besically a divorce. I opted to finish it because I had no interest in remaining tied to my ex in any way. In hind sight I almost wish I had left the actually divorce to him to do just so he and the new wife would have had to handle the last details themselves. I am sure they would have lived in sin rather than made it legal just because he is such a spineless one.

Scribble I swear we have to laugh or we would spend all our days crying. It is horrible to endure and the healing is painful. SO much damage and fallout.

A good note: We talked to the director of the special school program my youngest is going into. It sounds very good and it may be the help he needs. I can only hope.


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

L2, my thoughts are with you every day.I hope things get better soon for you.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, October 2nd (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A good note: We talked to the director of the special school program my youngest is going into. It sounds very good and it may be the help he needs.

Lied, I'm glad to hear this news. I pray that it will bring you the peace that you so desperately need.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7636 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's good news Lied! I had a separation agreement drawn up the freak...my solicitor said it wasn't worth the paper it was written on! It got him out the door though!
I then went on to do whatever my solicitor advised, which funnily enough, wasn't the same as what the freak had proposed!!

Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: england
lied2
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heck getting them out the door is 1/2 the battle sometimes. Once they live elsewhere we can breathe and start to think straight.

Oh man, I had the most horrific cream last night. I dreamt that the ex came and cheated on his wife with me Where the heck did that come from. It was gory details and all and the whole dream I was wondering why I was doing it with him. I woke up creeped out. EWWWWWW


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
ScribblingMum
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I go for STD testing again today...YEE-HAW!!! But, at least my doc. already knows the sitch. this time...

Mr.Wisdom has yet to make his next STD appoint...


~ScribblingMum~
D-D 1: 12/23/06 - Porn (dd bust him on-line)
D-D 2: 4-25-08 - Massage P.'s(new act. in pretend recov.)
D-D 3:9-9-08 Caught call m. girl
D-Day 4: 6/30/09 -: free MP g.f./prost.
D-Day 5: 1-10-10: new mp prost's.
~DONE!


Posts: 1529 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: S .CALIF.
ScribblingMum
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

L2:
My poor 14dd dreamed last night thAT MY HUSBAND/her dad was dying and *I* didn't even care...:(


~ScribblingMum~
D-D 1: 12/23/06 - Porn (dd bust him on-line)
D-D 2: 4-25-08 - Massage P.'s(new act. in pretend recov.)
D-D 3:9-9-08 Caught call m. girl
D-Day 4: 6/30/09 -: free MP g.f./prost.
D-Day 5: 1-10-10: new mp prost's.
~DONE!


Posts: 1529 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: S .CALIF.
lied2
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I officially lost my job today. The elderly lady I care (family friend) for died last night. She was in hospital and it went fast which is good and a relief but.....

There will still be a bit of work that will need doing to finish everything up with arrangements and cleaning up etc. as well as maintenance of the house until it is sold or whathave you.. Guess I will be job hunting in the near future.

WHen it rains... it pours.


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
veritas
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lied2: to your dream. How awful to have to live that at all! to the school stuff, OTOH. There's at least a little light at the end of the tunnel.

(((wb2))): I am constantly amazed at what good and proactive parents we become, being married to such idiots. I am so glad that your ex's and ow's treatment of the kids will be heard in court; they've probably already been treated as 2nd class citizens by your X both knowingly and unknowingly for much too long.


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

Posts: 10164 | Registered: Feb 2004
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, October 3rd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tribe)))

Scribbling,
I went for STD tests about 3 weeks ago. Thank the heavens, they were all negative. I will pray for the same results for you. I'm so sorry that your DD is suffering through this along with you. They know a lot more than we think....Just keep pourin' the love on her.

(((lied)))so sorry to hear about your losses. I hope things will settle down soon for you.

So, the Freak's antics continue. It seems that all requests for reimbursement of expenses will have to go through attorneys. He's also now demanding that I pick the kids up on Fridays at the skank's house. The orders say I will pick them up at his place of residence. Which is not officially the skank's house. He purports to be living elsewhere where he supposedly is renting 2 rooms. I ended up leaving him a message requesting he provide me with written notification if he has a new address. If he fails to do so, I will send the request through his attorney. That I'd pick the kids up at the skank's house tonight, but they'd better be waiting on the curb.

Of course the weren't. So, I pulled up out front and blared the horn several times. Then I called his cell phone with "Cheater Cheater" blaring in the background, and said, "please send the kids out now."

Fucker. Swear it....


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7636 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 2:57 AM, October 4th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hideously disgusting people. I hate them all.

Just remember all of you how far you have come. When they are out of the same house as you, you can begin to rebuild. It is hard work but always better than living their nightmare.

We are all such amazing survivors.


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