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User Topic: N. P.D Thread - Part VI
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wounded - it does not matter how many boundries you keep putting up against these npd freaks - they will overstep them every time. They have no idea. Their behaviour is totally inappropriate. I love the "we" - my freak does this all of the time - because of is behaviour we stopped being a "we" a long time ago!
He was even asking me about my finances yesterday! I was like "why do you want to know". I told him bullshit. I know I should have said mind your own business but I get drawn into it so quickly. Even now, when I know all about boundries etc. Madness!

Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: england
hexed
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Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((wounded)))

hope you're feeling better.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 2:09 AM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((TRIBE))))
Peace and healing to you all.

Just another day in paradise, eh?


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
Heartless Bytchh
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Sad  Posted: 2:17 AM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I may not be here for a few days.
Fucktard/Father of the Year will be in town until Sunday.

I sure wish he wasn't.
More thanks to the stupid hurricanes.

We're supposed to get 6 to 10" of rain Sat and Sun.
I hope all my SI buds in TX are going to be ok.
I'll be thinking about y'all.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
veritas
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((wounded))) You need to start exercising the finger that pushes the off button. You don't HAVE TO listen to his rants. You can check out the laws in your state, put a recorder on your own phone, and announce to him that he is being recorded. Or better yet, let it go to voicemail.

(((HB))) Boy, do I know that feeling... my prayers are with you....

(((hugs))) to all...


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, everyone. (((Tribe)))

I'm feeling better this morning. I slept well. I'm also not feeling well physically. I went cold turkey off the ADs over the Labor Day weekend, and I'm not so sure that part of this isn't withdrawal symptoms. I know, I know, I'm not supposed to go cold turkey off ADs. Yeah, I NOW know why you don't go cold turkey.

HB--Be strong. You've got to make the break though, GF. Will he stay at his brothers if you insist? If he's gonna be at your house, then please make yourself scarce. Seriously. Call me anytime you need to.

[This message edited by woundedby2 at 4:58 PM, September 11th (Thursday)]


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
lied2
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, September 11th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We had counceling tonight. It was heart breaking to hear my little one tell us how he feels like he is just an after thought because of the way his dad has left us and remarried. He is in such pain and turmoil and has such deep anger. I wish I could just hug him and make it all go away. He still thinks that his dad could come back to us. (I guess divorce the new wife and fall back in luv with me <double >

Of course when we get home the ex calls and wants to talk to the little one (lately he doesn't talk to the oldest much at all. Probably because the oldest puts him in his place). Is he psychic or something and knows the kids were talking trash about their father. The little one was at a friend's place and couldn't come to the phone. When the little one calls back it goes to message and the ex calls back too late for son to talk for more than a few minutes. He makes me the bad guy for having to get my son off the phone and into bed.

I'm too tired for this crap day in and day out.


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, September 12th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((hurting ones)))) and also
((((hiding ones))))

Lied,

I am dealing with the same things with my DS13. The pain they are in is gut-wrenching. Mine doesn't want to see his dad at all. He's suffering so many psychological problems because of his dad's anger, violence and now his betrayal.

The IC is working with him on a script to use with asshat. I just hope that NPD Dad will eventually lose interest in the kids and they will be free from his toxic grasp.

Asshat was at it again right away today. I was not at work today at all, so I knew he would eventually call my cell. Just a matter of when. First call @ 9:30 am. Ignored. Second call @ noon. Third call @ 12:15. Finally left a message asking if I took DS to the orthodontist. Umm, yeah. I made the appointment - why wouldn't I be the one taking him?? And then, "can you give me a call when you can talk?" Oh, hell no. Not biting on that one.

Oh, yes, he also brought leftover bagels and pastries from his work again last night when he picked the kids up for visitation. A big box from Panera. WTF???

Tribe, I'm not getting a good feeling here. I'm worried that things may not be going so well with the Happy Family maybe? I don't know. He's beginning to worry me. I'm thinking that he's about to launch into stalker mode again. I hope I'm wrong, but I'm getting a little bit a skeered.

Tomorrow I'm ignoring. Putting new mantras into place. Firm boundaries.

It's his weekend, so I wonder what stories the kids will come home with on Sunday...[sigh]


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, September 12th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It never ends does it. I feel for you all, dealing with this.
It ds birthday tomorrow - the freak is gracing us with his presence. all paid for by my he just turns up. What a dad!

Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: england
napewastewin
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, September 12th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Bobelina ,Dreamlife, jjct, Hello. I know, I have been absent for a while....Hope you are all doing well.


take your candle and go light your world

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, September 12th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NAPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WOW!

u just made my day!
so good to see you!
oh er...ummm well, you know what i mean!

LOL!
zat you?
wow!
lookin happy, there my friend!
what beyootiful smiles!
hugs !


Posts: 6032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
bobelina
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, September 12th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nape)))

BoB


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

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bobelina
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, September 12th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Veritas)))

May Pete and Ike, take a long, long hike.

BoB


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, happy day!! We are back online. Special shout out of thanks to 2 very special SI NPD buds who I clung to during our time off-line. Thanks guyz! You'ze the bestest....


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Posting to let all my SI buds over seas know I'm ok.Ike missed me.
Itsa, I thought about you a lotbut had no way to get hold of you.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Posting to let all my SI buds over seas know I'm ok.Ike missed me.
Itsa, I thought about you a lot but had no way to get hold of you.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
bobelina
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tribe))),

Hope all are well.

To quote (Sort of) the Man:

"Free at last, Free at last. Thank God Almighty, Free at last."

As of today, I am no longer married to my pet N. She did manage to get 50/50 Placement and Custody.

I also apparently got fired from my N workplace .

Fucking Awesome !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BoB


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on the Big D, Bob. Sorry 'bout the custody thing tho...

Wait, who got fired? You or the N? confused...


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
bobelina
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I gots fired. And it is a relief.

WARNING:

As SadToo has reiterated about a thousand times, divorcing an N is pure hell. Some how they manage to be the victim, you are the aggressor.

NC? My experience with NC was that I was perceived as being difficult.

Protecting my kids when they were to afraid to go to the NPD Freaks house? I'm keeping the kids from her.

I wish I had the money for an attorney. I didn't The NPD Freak's Mom subsidized her lawyer and is still paying NPD's bills. I cannot compete with that. No money. LOL.

I can see why SadToo and others have recommended a lawyer to handle everything. I now see that it would have cost me a mint, as NPD Freaks are so damned difficult to deal with, but worth it.

And not that it's news to anyone, but lawyers can lie through their teeth. I called her lawyer on lie after lie today. I even thanked him for fucking over my kids. LOL.

This happened in a meeting with, NPD Freak, NPD Freak Lawyer, Guardian Ad Litem and myself. Then we were able to get before the judgetoday as opposed to scheduled Friday, and finalize the divorce and settlement agreement.

So the NPD Freak gets her 50/50, which should, as it has in the past, probably start unraveling in about a day or two. Then this horse shit will start all over again. Ugghhhhh.......

Lied, I don't know how you've done this for so long. It's a bitch.

That's my BoB Report. LOL.

BoB

Updated cause I'm lame. ;)

ETA: I stand corrected. It has already started. DD13 just stopped by to get some things (The kids weren't expecting to go to NPD Freak house tonight, but that was changed with the agreement). She was holding/hugging me and said that she should be home (here at my house) and not going to her mothers. Damn freaks give no consideration to their kids/NPD Pawns.

[This message edited by bobelina at 7:12 PM, September 23rd (Tuesday)]


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

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