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User Topic: Tactical Primer
annb
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, April 30th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump.

Posts: 7632 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
Magda08
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, April 30th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for the newbies

Posts: 44 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: US
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, May 10th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
annb
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, May 11th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 7632 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
annb
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, May 19th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 7632 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, May 24th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump!


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1923 | Registered: Nov 2010
Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, May 26th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
Edie
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, June 3rd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5147 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, June 8th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, June 13th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping


Me: BS
2 kids: DD16 and DS19
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7849 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, June 19th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1923 | Registered: Nov 2010
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, July 4th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1923 | Registered: Nov 2010
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, July 6th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2325 | Registered: Jan 2012
SuspiciousWife
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, July 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping


Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session

Posts: 557 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: East Coast
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, July 30th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1923 | Registered: Nov 2010
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
charbonnel
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Default  Posted: 3:38 AM, August 1st (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great advice. But what if the marriage was troubled. WS says she wouldn't have had the affair had she not been miserable (I know no excuse) but I take ownership of my own behaviour and have committed to improving it. She says that the OM isn't the issue but it is our marriage, that being in the A allowed her to stay in the marriage! She now says that even if the A ends (she seems to be finding out that the OM isn't as honest as she thought as she's found he's been staying in local hotels when she isn't involved and isn't being forthcoming with answers) she doesn't make reconciling with me a priority, that she likes being her own woman and is encouraging me to find another (better) partner. But I don't want to. I want my marriage to be improved and renewed, I want my family back. I am 51 (BS) and she is 33 (WS) we have a 7 yr old son.
I can't seem to do the 180. Even tonight she invited me for dinner with them...as I have no life it is hard to resist not seeing them but it is painful as I always think about what might be if only she would recommit...

Posts: 66 | Registered: Aug 2012
justjul
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Default  Posted: 2:41 AM, August 8th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, THIS. This needs to stay on the front page. BUMP.

charbonnel, have you read the topic on understanding 180 ? http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=232785


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, August 11th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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