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User Topic: Long Term Affairs V I I I
weepy
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've actually started Getting the Love You Want, finally. H asked me today if it was my "stop smoking" book. I just said "no." He pursued no further.

Im going to check out Steering Clear... see if they have it at the library. If not, back to Amazon.

We're civil today. I just wish he'd -- no scratch that -- I wish I could find a way to harden my heart or at least provide shelter for it without resorting to anger. That seems to be the only way I can keep him at a distance.

I'm going to revise the letter a little. It's actually been over 30 years since I was faithful to him while we were engaged too. And a year before that. And "ironic" isn't the word I really mean, it's "offended". And I need to move some of the sentences around. I'm thinking of giving it to him on Valentine's day, since that's the only time I can count on him actually reading the cards I give him.

shirley, I can't believe your H is actually posting. What a lucky break for you... he'll learn so much here.

fsa, I know baby, I know. Had a bout of "how could you?" again today before daybreak. Tried to compensate with a little nookie, but he wasn't cooperating there either.

Hang in. That's all we can do.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Quick, everbody post their favorite beauty secret or really funny joke!!!

Well...uhhh...erhmmmm..

FSA, my H is the same as yours. I also wish that mine was similar to the others. I KNOW that that will help me ALOT..but he wont.
Unfort the things he says...sometimes its just not true; sometimes it sounds like he is deep in the fog, and other times, sadly, its true stuff...esp if its FOO related. Which is why IC has warned me to stop telling him what we discuss, because he just uses this as ammunition for the next fight. His common one is, "You were f*cked up BEFORE we were married!", or" All that therapy, and you still dont know whats wrong with you."

Strange though, I am fighting him less and less when he says stuff like this. I still get deeply hurt but I am hoping that I am developing an antibodies against him.

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strange dream I had last night. We spent the weekend at my aunts. I dreamt that we had D'ed and I was remarried to this fantastic guy.He was kind and wonderful to me and the kids. Anyway we were spending the weekend at my aunts, and (X)H had come over to visit with the family.I was so stressed that he was going to ruin everything with new H and the kids and the family. I was constantly hovering over them, sort of in protective mode.And new H just rolled with every dig or snide remark XH met. And I started feeling safer and safer.And I saw that the kids were feeling safe too. The last thing I remember was praying silently, "Please dont let XH ruin this like he did before."

Mmmmm...

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Whats up FSA?Want to chat? I am here.


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

Posts: 2471 | Registered: Aug 2006 | From: London
Feeling so alone
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in. That's all we can do.
And I so appreciate having "good company" to hang in there with.
Hate you missed out on the nookie, or I should say Mr Weepy missed out.
I'm thinking of giving it to him on Valentine's day, since that's the only time I can count on him actually reading the cards I give him.
I didn't buy H a card that he would have to read. Found a rose that sings "Wild Thing". Need to go back and buy this stuffed lion I saw that had a heart hanging on the front of it with "Jungle Love" written on it. Years ago we saw a comedian that did a skit about jungle love and it was hilarious. We still talk about it today.

No Super Bowl party for me but I do have to go and get ready for church.

BTW everybody, I wanted to apologise about one of my lines in my poem the other day. I did go back and take it out. Sorry, I got somewhat carried away. I promise to be good, that it until the next time I'm bad.

FSA


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One more thing. Have ya'll noticed how close we are to closing LTA VIII. Unreal.


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lost just caught your post.
It's nice to be able to actually get to talk to one of ya'll for a change.

Nothings up with me. Just same ole same ole. Wish I was further along in this recovery. I just can't help but backsliding at times. But I am better about picking myself back up than I used to be.

How are you?


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, FSA, we do go through these these threads fast, dont we?

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(((((OTC)))))


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FSA - you like to be first in right? Maybe we can get to the next one before you have to go to church?


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, ya'll will wait till I leave and then go to work on it. When I get home it will be all decorated, which is a good thing with my decorating talents. If I find that hidden camera I'm gonna shoot it out with DS's bb gun.


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but, but, but....I gotta go to a superbowl party soon, I have already had a beer and I want to go for a ride with the Mods!!!


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have already had a beer and I want to go for a ride with the Mods!!!
What, are they designated drivers? I'll keep that in mind.


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FSA, you have to do the decorating for the next one. Come on..we totally trust your taste!


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No! I just love going through the wormhole to another completely new place.....and then we get to decorate. The H is on his way home from the last sporting event of the weekend with one of the Ds so I gotta make this happen sooooooonnnnn


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yeah! FSA skip church and decorate! What am I, the devil


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Between us, we can do this. What you say FSA, Shirley, and whoever is on...this would be a good time to chime in!!


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<in my very best superbowl party chanting voice>

Go Tribe! Go Tribe! Go Tribe!

(tee hee this is really fun)


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You really really don't want me to decorate unless you loooove cobwebs. That has been my "theme" for a while now. I just build around them. Use them as a center of attraction.

We're shopping for a new home and I haven't decided yet if I'm going to take the cobwebs with me when I move. What do you think?


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gee, I hope we wont get into trouble for this.

The things we do for our friends!!!

FSA, you has SO better be here!!


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I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you should very carefully pack up the cobweb and dust bunnies in lots and lots of foam peanuts just to make suuuuurrre they don't get broken and take them with you!!!


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, if we get banned for bugging the mods during superbowl I am so going to bum!


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FSA, you has SO better be here!!
Have you been tipping into Shirley's beers?

Trouble? With some of the things I've gotten away with in the past, this is nothing.


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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