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User Topic: Married to a Bipolar
just_hurt
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, January 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The holiday season often is a trigger.

With a bipolar spouse it is important to recognize their triggers, for them to recognize their own triggers, and adjust accordingly.

Avoiding stressors and things that can overwhelm is important to control the illness.

-justhurt.


ME: 33
HER: 32 (She is not an adjective... but if I had to pick one... WTF :) )
3 Sons (2, 5, 8)
DDAY: This anniversary is not worth remembering - even if I cannot forget.

Attempting to put the pieces together.


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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, January 22nd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JH ~ this is quite true.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, January 28th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just saying I'm sick of BPD. My FWH is doing another 'trial' of Viibryd. It made him a jerk last time, hypomanic w/ some grandiosity and certainly plenty of egocentricity.....and every idea was genius....and....and.... Of course he didn't note this change for the negative AT ALL. It was all in my head.

However, Viibryd holds the allure of no sexual side effects and as it happened, he hadn't taken it properly before, as he'd take it with a gulp of water and maybe his morning coffee. Turns out absorption is extremely poor (10% +/- I think I heard) if you don't take it with a meal. So, this time it sits on the dinner table for him to take with supper.

He's been on the full dose now for about 2 weeks and I'm noticing the bad stuff again. He hasn't followed through with the agreement he'd made at our MC, where he'd said he'd call and check in with his IC so as to get another's "objective" assessment of the med's effects on him.

F*ck. I hate that FWH's faulty chemistry can so dramatically change who I'm married to. Oh, and of course as is the usual during this hypomanic phases, he has again raised the topic of going off meds, "I'm taking too many!"


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, February 7th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge hugs to you, Sad.

I just found my WH on a nutty music site online saying he's over 10 yrs. younger, poly drug user, likes techno trance music, etc!

Of course, he's off his meds...

Thank God I'm over 300 miles away from him and he has no idea knowing where I truly live.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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ScaredNewFather
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Target  Posted: 6:15 AM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm starting to think I should only post on this thread from now on. I'm getting too much feedback on the other forums like "she's toxic" or "you need to just get out while you can" and all it does is piss me off.

I keep wondering if some people even read all the stuff I posted about my WW being bipolar. (See profile for some details). One person even tried to tell me that bipolars still know right from wrong and that shouldn't be a crutch for their behavior. Fortunately a doctor on this site soon corrected them.

One person asked me if I hold her less accountable for her A's because she's bipolar, and I thought, 'Of course I do!" Am I nuts for thinking that, or do some of you who have experience with bipolar WS's feel the same?

The way I see it, this is a horrible condition that she's been inflicted with. And as much as her self destructive hurts me I know it tears her up too. I've been accused of being too empathetic, but I feel that I could no more give up on my wife because of her bipolar than I could give up on my son if he had Down's syndrome or autism.

Tell me I'm not alone in thinking like this. Am I just being a door mat, or do any of you feel this way about your bipolar spouse?


"I wanted to break your jaw, let you choke on your own teeth. But I didn't. That ain't weakness... that took everything." Rick from The Walking Dead

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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scared, I believe my H to be bipolar however he has not been diagnosed. I do feel if it is the case that it was not entirely his being selfish that lead to the A. He has exhibited alot of the signs (with the exception of delusions of gradour). I have always been of the thought that people relate better when things hit home. My dad is bipolar, with out the knowledge and seeing the things he did in his manic episodes I would brush it off as making an excuse for behavior.

How was everyone DX? What type of tests are there? With my dad he had delusions of grandour so there was no questions what it was.


BW 32
WH 36


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ScaredNewFather)))

You are heard. There are times when that line from "Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer" resonates so loudly with me: "even among the misfits, you're misfits!!"

True understanding of some things seems to only come from experiencing them either first hand or with someone to whom you are very close. So, painful though remarks may be, I try to forgive others their ignorance...much like with infidelity and all the crap you hear in the media and so forth. (Though to be honest, that is a challenge, because it p*sses me off that those with a platform to educate the public choose instead to use it to perpetuate fallacies.)

when off the meds she perseverates on all the little negative things in a depressive episode, making Himalayan sized mountains out of mole hills. Then goes into a manic episode carrying all that with her and has to act to escape the bad feelings, often in self destructive ways.
This has a familiar ring to it. Righteous indignation, meet BPD.

I'm just starting to come out of a brutal experience due to my H changing his medication regimen, substituting Viibryd in for Lexapro. It didn't go well when he tried it in August; it went horrendously awry this time around. The change in personality is so extreme, yet he "doesn't see it". Apparently, you see, I like to just make things up, imagine that he's morphed into AngerMan, and try to keep him from being successful on a new medication, GODDAMN IT!!! The lack of proper medication for BP frees a dark genie from its bottle, which quickly locks away the real person deep inside the brain somewhere, missing save for short glimpses periodically through the day. Another good analogy is from the Hans Christian Anderson story, "The Snow Queen", and what happened to the little boy (I think his name was Kai). If I believed AngerMan was who I was married to, I'd be gone. The accountability for actions to me comes down to where the BP person can be accountable and can have control, and that is seeking professional help and following the treatment plan consistently. They can't help their diagnosis, but they can work hard to control the manifestations of their diagnosis.

Proper medication, following the medication regimen, and regularly seeing his psychiatrist were necessary elements for attempting R.

Unmedicated, (some, the ones I know or have heard or read about) BP people seem to do some crazy shit, feel totally justified and entitled to do it, see nothing wrong with it, and resent the hell out of anyone who tries to tell them in so many words: "hey, you're doing crazy shit, you should stop". Doing things that are extremely risky, blatantly stupid, incredibly selfish....the list goes on. My H is a very intelligent man, but if you were to judge his IQ solely on some of the things he's done during a hypomanic streak (which of course at times he'd claim he doesn't get), you'd figure him to be a numbskull. Who the hell has an A in an environment where being found out could have catastrophic career & professional consequences, and then brags to co-workers about it??!! A bipolarman, that's who. Some frikkin' seriously impaired judgment and unable to see it.

However, medications come with side effects; ironically in our case, major sexual side effects, which are painful to try and accept. To voluntarily take a medication that you know is taking away your sex life is horrible. It's horrible for both of us; however, to me it's a bit clearer that it's a Hobson's Choice. There's no sex life without the meds because he's detached, self-absorbed, and angry (often extremely depressed as well, he tends toward "mixed episodes"). However, in many respects insofar as our marriage and family are concerned, there is no emotional life without the meds as well. With the meds, we at least have each other and a family and other components of life.

It's hard not to feel like you're a doormat or somehow being further debased by dealing with this all in addition to infidelity; however, they are related. Truly, were it not for the damn BPD, I think we would be off living happily ever after. We have had some pretty good times since '08. Our sole issues for the past couple years have been BP-related only. I see the dx the way you do I think; he can't help that he has it. However, if he ever allows the siren's song of quitting meds to win him over, or the wishful thinking that "I don't think I really am (bipolar"), (>>whistle!!<<)I'm out of the pool.

@Alwaysknew: My husband was diagnosed with depression in '01 and damn near literally has been through every medication made for depression. He's very sensitive to meds and so some would have SSEs and others would do nothing and others would quickly turn Dr. Jekyll into Mr. Hyde. I have some stories there. Finding a good psychiatrist who really takes the time to talk over the history and ask pertinent questions is key. We asked (well, I pleaded) with our CCs (his IC & my IC do tag-team couples therapy) for recommendations and through that we landed with this very quirky, extremely intelligent, highly experienced pysch who has spent more time with my H in the last few years than all the other doctors did over all the preceding years, cumulatively (I kid you not). BP-II in particular is frequently misdiagnosed as depression for 6-8 years, I've read. This is because it is depression that drives the patient to seek help. To them, there's no problem with mania or hypomania. It's grrrrreat! They're getting stuff done, they have loads of ideas, and there's this powerful allure of feeling pretty invincible. I'd never even heard of BP-II, hypomania, soft bipolar....none of it 'til SI, and I'm generally very well-read, have a M.Ed. in Counselor Education, and so forth. I guess like most people, I had a passing knowledge of the topic until it entered my life, then I became an armchair expert.

Relative to BP-II, I found this interesting statement from Dr. Arnold Lieber, M.D.:

BEYOND DSM-IV

Any experienced practitioner of clinical psychopharmacology will attest to the fact that a majority of patients presenting in office or outpatient settings with symptoms of mood disturbance, anxiety and/or depression do not meet strict DSM diagnostic criteria. Their symptoms often do not conform to the time constraints required and they tend to fluctuate over time. Anxiety and depression are likely to have atypical manifestations. Hypomania, when present, tends to be of the dysphoric (irritable) variety rather than the euphoric hypomania described in the DSM. Many of these patients have previously been started on antidepressants or anxiolytic drugs by their primary care physicians or by other psychiatrists. Either they have failed to respond to antidepressant trials (antidepressants are now commonly used for both anxiety and depression), or else they have had only a partial response. Sometimes the antidepressant treatment has worsened the depression or precipitated an episode of euphoric or dysphoric hypomania. Some patients present taking high doses of benzodiazepine tranquilizers, which no longer contain their anxiety. All of the above described patients populate the soft bipolar spectrum.

This was particularly interesting to me because it specifically mentions some of the things I've witnessed, and my H has at times wanted to say he didn't meet (his take on) the DSM-IV diagnostic criteria.

Okay, this is probably my longest post....EVAH! Hope maybe something was helpful.

[This message edited by sad12008 at 8:57 AM, March 2nd (Friday)]


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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needtofindwhoiam
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, I think I have found my thread. My H has been diagnosed bipolar andit starting lamictal. It is so hard to explain to people that he turns into another person. Sometimes i questioned if I was the one going crazy. Turns out his mania manifested as irritability (i like to call it assholeeness). When he started on the antidepressants his mania went off the wall. So far the lamictal seems to be leveling him out.
Anyway, I'm glad I found ya'll!!


me 36
WH 38
Daughter 3
Been together 14 years
Dday Aug 3, 2011
LTA on and off almost 4 years

" I have become comfortably numb. "
" The flames are all gone, but the pain lingers on... "
-Pink Floyd


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, March 3rd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

welcome, needtofindwhoiam!

when you wrote:

his mania manifested as irritability (i like to call it assholeeness)

I had to smile. Evidently you see the same irritability as I do; I always used to describe it as my H "getting in touch with his Inner Assh*le"

Okay, I know that isn't funny, but you've got to laugh, find the humor in there somewhere to stay afloat sometimes.


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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needtofindwhoiam
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, March 3rd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks sad12008,
I'm glad to have found 'my group.' And, it is very healthy to laugh. You have to stay 'sane' somehow. Even my husband jokes about his inner a**hole-ness.


me 36
WH 38
Daughter 3
Been together 14 years
Dday Aug 3, 2011
LTA on and off almost 4 years

" I have become comfortably numb. "
" The flames are all gone, but the pain lingers on... "
-Pink Floyd


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dreamlife
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WH can't stand "Springing forward" each year. He feels he loses an hour of his precious "sleep".
Just wondering if anyone else on this thread has gone through this yearly time change thing?

[This message edited by dreamlife at 2:31 AM, March 6th (Tuesday)]


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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Sorry ~ Double post!

[This message edited by dreamlife at 2:29 AM, March 6th (Tuesday)]


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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Reading all of these stories makes me feel better knowing that I am not the only one that has stayed for so long. After 18 years of marriage my BP husband who has only been on meds once 24 years ago told me he wants to leave and does not love me anymore. He had a breakdown in college caused by stress. He was in a volatile relationship and he went through a plate glass window to get to her and went after her. He was ordered to keep away from her. Now he has found her and is having an emotional affair with her. He says it has nothing to do with me or our family. His actions have led to fights that led our daughter to tell a friend she wanted to kill herself. He did not react at all. I do not think he loves our children anymore. I have managed to care for him all these years and yes my temper has gotten the better of me lately and have stressed him more. His is paranoid that I am spying on him and has delusions regarding what he thinks I mean when I speak to him. He has never lost a job but has had disciplinary actions at multiple jobs. He does change jobs a lot, but not all were his fault. I want to leave but I can not leave my kids. He says he wants to leave then claims that it is my fault he is trapped and has no where to go. He started Seroqel three days ago. I have seen a rapid increase in his paranoia and took him to the hospital last night. He convinced them that it was just anger over our marital problems and they sent him home. I'm sorry I went on so much I just needed to get it out and find out what others think of it. Thank you .


Me BW 40 Him WS 44 Kids 15, 16
M 19 Together 21
Said he wants D 1/?/12
D-Day of EA 2/17/12 & 2006 ONS
Admit 3/15/12 5/21/12 Out of fog. FalseR. R 6/15/3/12. NC sent. Not sure what we are now... 6/22/12 wasted time? 8/14/12
9/08/12 R maybe

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sad12008
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(((mistyalone))) (that's a big hug)

Welcome, I'm sorry you have reason to be joining our merry throng but I am glad you found us! This I Can Relate thread seems to run a bit slow at times, so I encourage you to post your story on the Just Found Out or General forum, too.

It's hard when there's that added factor of BPD. Of course, there's so many different ways the pain of infidelity can be magnified and the whole situation made worse, I guess we can't claim to corner the market...

It can feel very lonely and isolating for sure. It's the person you married, yet not (at times).

How did your H come to be on the Seroquel? Did he see a psychiatrist? Do you know if he is BP I or BP II? Meds can make all the difference in the world; however, coming up with the right cocktail takes a lot of perseverance and a good doctor....and of course, the dreaded TIME.

Seems odd he was put on Seroquel as a stand-alone; however, I'm no psychiatrist.

Anyway, you're no longer alone, and I hope you are able to get a lot of support and help here on SI.


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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Hi Mistyalone,
You are NOT alone. There are people here who will listen to you and offer support. Living with someone who has BPD can make you feel like YOU are crazy. It can take so much time and patience and strength.
The right treatment will be critical. However, the fact that he is taking meds makes me hope that maybe there is a part of him that wants to feel better - even though he is able to 'trick' the hospital staff. What my H has discovered is that he 'thought' that his behavior and thoughts were normal because that is all he knew. He didn't think things were abnormal. I would guess that many people with mental illness feel the same way. So maybe he wasn't trying to 'trick' them. Maybe he was just telling them what he thought and they didn't dig deep enough to get him the right help.
There is a lot of support in the Just Found Out and General forums in addition to here. I am sending you my hope for peace.


me 36
WH 38
Daughter 3
Been together 14 years
Dday Aug 3, 2011
LTA on and off almost 4 years

" I have become comfortably numb. "
" The flames are all gone, but the pain lingers on... "
-Pink Floyd


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sad12008
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I hope someone can relate. Yesterday, my cell phone showed I had voicemail, and really all it was about was some messages I'd saved a month ago. These messages were from the previously mentioned dark genie (see post of 3/2), and they were very very ugly. To frame it, my H has BP-II, but was told he got thrown into a full-blown BP-I mania due to a major medication change; he had changed into AngerMan, but was also voicing suicidal ideations and his behavior was getting shockingly out of character.

I wound up having to call 911 and ultimately he wound up hospitalized. It was disturbing and traumatic. Go ahead and throw in whichever strong adjectives you prefer in front of those two words; it was awful. The messages he left came from calls he made somewhere the hours in the chain of events after he got into the mental health system.

Serious threats, ugly words, rage. (This is not him, at all; 20 years together he'd never used the c-word; he used it 7 times in the week up to and including these phone messages.) I'm the only one who's heard these calls; my H doesn't remember a lot of what happened, and this is one of those forgotten elements. I wish I could forget them, but for now I can't. It was a scary, traumatic, completely unexpected experience....and I don't know "what to do with it", if that makes any sense. One might say it was a safety & security infidelity of sorts. My rational mind understands he was NOT well, and the words came from the demon possessing him; however, I feel like I am the only one who bore witness to this demon and for no one else is it as graphic and vivid as it was to me. In other words, I am alone with it. (My H is still processing his side of the experience, and it's painful for him (the hospital experience was godawful, for starters), so he's not really ready to talk about it all.)

That sucks. I have an IC, but it's just different to live with things....be they from infidelity or BPD.

So, you all get to hear my woes.

He is back to normal now, in case that wasn't clear.


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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Hi all. Think I need to join this group. My fWH was diagnosed with BPD last June when I got him admitted to the psych ward for suicidal ideation. This was about 3 months after our D-Day. Although our marriage and communication had started to improve after D-Day, his mental health was still in a downward spiral until his hospitalization.

Love what "needtofind" and "sad" said about mania manifesting itself as assholeness. That is exactly what actually triggered our conversations that lead to D-day - he was just getting more and more explosive about the stupidest little things - like he had zero tolerance for frustration.

Ironically, fWH's complete spiral into feeling justified about infidelity came because of the ever increasing stress of our teenage daughter, who (it turns out) is also bipolar - though we didn't have a diagnosis at the time. So, I am the only non BPD person in our merry household (but I AM a recovering alcoholic of 21 years, so does that count? ) Anyway, suffice it to say that over the years, there were many times I felt very alone, when I didn't like ANYONE in my immediate family.

Functionally, things have been dramatically better since both DD and fWH were put on appropriate meds - she's on Lamictal and he's on Lithium. His meds, as noted by some below, have definately had a negative side effect on the sex side of things (which has been hard for my recovery - wanting to feel needed and sexually attractive, since he seemed to have no problem getting it up for somebody ELSE... - but that was before the meds...). Anyway, even that is better now that he's been on this regimen for a while, so I'd say we are at a pretty stable stage.

Good to meet others in my situation...


BS-Me(43)
fWH-(44)
DDay-3/11

The grief within me has its own heartbeat. It has its own life, its own song. Part of me wants to resist the rhythms of my grief, yet as I surrender to the song, I learn to listen deep within myself-Alan Wolfelt


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SAD-
I feel like I can sooo relate to what you are saying. I really think that I am the only one who has seen the full-fledged "crazy" manic. Even when I tried to describe to our friends years ago (before he was diagnosed) they just couldn't see it. He seemed to be so fun-loving to them . Anyway, it can be soooo scary to see your spouse turn into that 'other' person. before we knew he was BPD we actually had a name for the 'evil' guy who would creep up. I also am frustrated with the loss of memory. Psych said that he is dissociating but sometimes I want to call BS (not betrayed spouse, the other BS ).


PhoenixGirl-
I also think humor is one of the best ways to deal with things so... yes, I think recovering alcoholic counts . I hope your daughter's treatments work well for her. I guess she could consider herself lucky that she was diagnosed early.


me 36
WH 38
Daughter 3
Been together 14 years
Dday Aug 3, 2011
LTA on and off almost 4 years

" I have become comfortably numb. "
" The flames are all gone, but the pain lingers on... "
-Pink Floyd


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I'm in a holding pattern right now, waiting for official BP diagnosis next week of WH (therapist & H are positive); WH is still living apart, still continuing A- the only thing he'll say about it is he's functioning in the only ways he can now without meds. Right now is simply the waiting game until meds are occurring and he's stable and we can see where things are at that point.
My problem tonight? While I've been working on my own recovery (CoDA meetings and step work, yay! Love it love it love it), I'm finding myself in an awkward position: wanting physical intimacy from WH. I just gave birth 5 weeks ago, so I'm about to be cleared by my OB; I was originally expecting to be jumping back in the sack with my H at this point; now I'm not.
I'm not happy with the man; I find him extremely dislikable most days, and I'm still super hurt by everything. How can I feel like this? I have no intention of propositioning him, I wouldn't reward him with this!


Me: BW, 34
Him: WH, 32
2 beautiful baby boys
DDay 1: 2/8/12
TT til DDay 2: 3/3/12
Status: R as of 5/6/12
WRONG: FALSE R

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js_girl,
Welcome! You said your WH is waiting for a dx next week....will he be seeing a psychiatrist at that time, or has he already met with one and is returning for a follow-up appointment?

The continuing the affair while waiting for the meds thing seems like a cop-out, BP or no BP, really.

Good for you for finding a CoDA group, glad you're finding it helpful!

Now as for your **ahem!** other needs, I see by your registration date you haven't been on SI very long. Thus, you've likely missed one of our many lively and entertaining "BOB" (battery operated boyfriend) threads. I think they mainly turn up in Off-Topic, but Fun & Games were certainly be appropriate, too.

Congratulations on the new baby!


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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