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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 3
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, August 13th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and as to being particularly useful, i'd ask the hawaii guy (i'm so jealous of...stfu!)


Posts: 6012 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Jimi40
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Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, August 14th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still lurking in the background.


You've got nowhere to fall, when your back's to the wall.

Posts: 5524 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Niagara
resigned
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, August 14th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lurking too. Not much to add.
It's the betrayal that kills me as much as anything.

Posts: 453 | Registered: Dec 2006
quedagh
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, August 14th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here. Tend to spend too much time lurking through the threads, though.


Divorced and safer, mostly.


Posts: 803 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Recovery Land
TwiceTorn
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, August 15th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still Around... Course I might be giving the fiancee a kick to the curb...


You've got to trust your instinct
And let go of regret
You've got to bet on yourself now star
'Cause that's your best bet~311 All mixed up


Posts: 3597 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Minnesota
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 2:18 AM, August 16th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9144 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
hurts
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, August 17th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why is it everytime I seem to get a grip on some of this stuff, it just reaches in and pulls at me.

The last two weeks just plain sucked, it put me into some very dark places with some very dark thoughts, and the biggest "I don't care" mood to go with it.

I have spent the better part of last week and weekend crawling my way out, trying respin all of this and to find the positive in it. (like there is any)

I have tried to post here and to do the positive things.

But this crap is just pulling at me, very strong it is.

I tried to push myself to be more open with W and to try and push the lines for communication. And yet, this morning I drop back into my defensive walls. I know if I say anything it will be taken completely out of context and be for naught.

I am justdying here, I can't make up my mind on anything.

Just gotta refocus. I am backpacking this week, I know it will help, it always allows me to find me, if not for but a couple of days.

Sorry guys, just grousing about.


Sometimes I lie awake at night, and I ask, "Where have I gone wrong?"
Then a voice says to me, "This is going to take more than one night."
--- Charles M. Schulz
SO if I check my pulse, and it is not there, do I get the day off?

Posts: 8381 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: At Home
Razor
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Helpless  Posted: 4:38 PM, August 18th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hurts

Cant give any advice cause allot of the time I am right with you in that dark place. Some days it just is fucking hopeless.

Wish I had an answer.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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dirk pitt
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, August 18th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((hurts))


Me=BS
Her=WW (ilovemyhusband)

Posts: 2127 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: ottawa ontario
pointmagnet
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, August 18th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey I will join this group of frustration. Every time I try to open up, to be positive, something will happen such that I am back to being the same status as dirt. What gives? Why am I on such a short leash instead of her???

This really does suck in a big way.


Me (BS): 53
Her (WW): 51
Married: A long time
Children: Three of them
D-Day: 10/07/07; 12/15/12
Status: Done

Posts: 469 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: USA
Jimi40
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How many of you guys get to feeling like complete fucking chumps for taking your wives back??

Just have this feeling, every now and then, that I'm just her fucking patsy.


You've got nowhere to fall, when your back's to the wall.

Posts: 5524 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Niagara
Razor
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jim I have those same feelings. OM got to party in my WW pants and I get the left overs. They treat us like worthless garbage and we take them back. How dumb is that?


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Probably most of us, Jimi.

Nobody likes being married to the tramp.


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Posts: 6687 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know how you guys feel...

Sometimes I feel like I've got a "Dupe" tattoo on my forehead...

Not only my ex but my daughter and her mother have all done nothing but use my generosity and trust like a fucking doormat...

It's all about me from now on...

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 5893 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
Jimi40
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It seems to me, if you combine the two "I can relate" threads I follow, into one, you'd get; Betrayed Men Who Aren't Getting Sex From Their Wives.


You've got nowhere to fall, when your back's to the wall.

Posts: 5524 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Niagara
wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't complain there. My wife wants to have sex a great deal more than I do these days.

Or more honestly, I suppose, my wife wants to have sex with me a great deal more than I want to have sex with her these days.

And that's not saying I don't think my wife's hot. I just don't get the wild urge to whip it out and go to town with her as much as I used to.


Machiavellian idiot savant

Posts: 6687 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
ForwardProgress?
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, the "angry man taking a cold shower" thread. Good one Jimi. We could create an encylopedia of "excuses for no sex."

Posts: 242 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: SW, USA
wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You could always have sex with my wife. Every other guy I seem to know has.

*snap*


Machiavellian idiot savant

Posts: 6687 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
sportsfan
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

w_a_l

Perhaps not as funny tho I seem to be in the same place...you know - making excuses for turning down sex...have been this way since the old HB days...(although I did call FWW yesterday to tell her that my partner was out of town and my secretary was on vacation which left me alone and, well, you know...).

I thought it was just me...


Posts: 1915 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: PA
Jimi40
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, August 19th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ouch!!! Winc, I would never do that to a friend.

I don't want to be a chump. I don't care what others think, (see sig line) but when I think of myself this way, it bothers the shit out of me.


You've got nowhere to fall, when your back's to the wall.

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