All 3 of my WW's fuck buddies were military on No family deployment! All from the same mess. All married with children - - - WOW!
How proud we should be!!!!!!
Me - Betrayed Spouse - Age:42
Her - Serial Adulterer Wife - Age:37
Affair partners - 3 in 16 months (+2 more unconfirmed)
D-Day 18 March 2013
Together 7 Years, Married 5 Years
DDay was 10 days ago, the day after, I called their platoon sgt.
The first thing out of her mouth after D-Day was, "why did you involve the Army"
I think I did the right thing but since we are reservists, they want me to go on post to IG.
I think they deserve whatever they get but I'm not a mean or vindictive person. Part of me feels it would be wrong to go to IG, it would have very serious consequences. I don't want revenge, I just want to understand what happened so why would I go to IG? Help me to understand
I did 30 years and was so proud to be a veteran. In my 30 years, I saw very little infidelity, and usually it was dealt with if it came to light by the supervisors. But as we started deploying more and more, I saw many broken marriages. I'm not sure if those were from infidelity as I didn't pry. In my opinion, the increased deployment tempo has exasurbated a small problem into a big problem.
Now we have Lt Col Wilkerson's love child. Also this morning, a unit somewhere (109th Wing) is being investigated for allowing officer misconduct (presumed sexual). WTF!
All I can say is I"m glad I'm retired and don't have to put up with that shit now. I wouldn't be able to handle it.
[This message edited by SecondHelping at 7:02 AM, June 14th (Friday)]
On a slightly different note, has anyone else gotten the "Soldiers are too busy fighting for our freedom to cheat, it's always the wives at home being sluts and spending all of their hard earned money because they are 'lonely'"?
Now, don't get me wrong, I know that either side can be the cheater, but it seems that some people think that the soldiers are above this and it is ALWAYS the spouse. I don't know if these people think that soldiers are incapable of wrongdoings (I mean, they are human like everyone else), or if they think that soldiers 'deserve' whatever they want since they are fighting(even if it is cheatin on their pregnant spouse at home and getting another soldier pregnant) ? Then they go on to say that soldiers don't have time to cheat.
I'm sorry, but my WH has so much more free time while stationed in korea than I do as a SAHM back in the states. I am stuck on an army base 500 miles away from family and good friends, and no one to help me with my 3mo old. My WH can go out all weekend if he wanted to, and when he gets off work (usually at 6 or so) can do whatever he pleases.
I think some people think that soldiers are saints in ACUs. A person can be a great soldier, but a shitty person and/or spouse. They should not get a 'free pass'.
When shit hit the fan for me, OW's mother posted on FB "These two are soldiers, they are far away from home and it is very hard for them. You should stand behind these soldiers and be proud, they are doing the best that they can and they can't help that they fell in love during a hard time." As if to minimize the whole thing and say it was okay... and she knew I was pregnant and we were married.
[This message edited by Tired05 at 1:41 AM, July 5th (Friday)]
My husband is army national guard. He was deployed for 9 months last year and had an EA/PA with another soldier that whole time. While I was taking care of our home and child, fussing over heartfelt letters, emails and care packages, working to pay off our debts, and missing him, he was fooling around with this girl. When he returned home he continued with her for another 10 months through text, calls, snapchat and their once a month "flings" during drill weekends!
To top it off I found concrete evidence of the A when I was about 14 weeks pregnant with our second child. I found I had an STD through routine prenatal screenings and then found the texts and call logs.
For those of you who contacted CoC and got the military involved, what was the process and what were the repercussions? The only reason I've left the army out of this is because he was her NCO and I'm afraid that an investigation by the army would lead to him losing out on career/retirement/benefits and how that would effect our children.
Healing myself is now my top priority.
My WH also lied about it, even though I KNEW something had happened. He lied for 6 years. He visited prostitutes while deployed in Thailand. There was no way to prove it, because he used his daily allowance (stipend, whatever it's called...I'm blanking on the word right now).
It looks like you haven't posted anywhere else. How are you holding up?
"People who live in a glass house have to answer the door" -Karl Pilkington