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User Topic: For Those Still In The Dark
capri
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, July 24th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hehe, dreamlife, fate is really throwing it's all to make him look bad! POOR GUY!!!!!! He's upstairs sleeping in our son's room, feeling sorry for himself because his evil wife won't sleep with him anymore. Imagine that... a few lies here and there, a few women over the years, a little bit of calling the wife 'irrational and ridiculous' for objecting, smearing the wife's name to co-workers (like I really believe he told them the whole story) and the wife gets bent out of shape. I can hardly live with myself!

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oops... is my sarcasm showing?


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, July 24th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, July 24th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Its not so much as giving us 'respect' (re: continued lying & mind fucking) -- its that they play by an entirely different & TWISTED set of rules.

Good point. And I know he is lying to his little whore also. The difference is...SHE believes him!!


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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What About Bob
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, July 24th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Anyways, it's kinda funny (in a sick way) how they have a complicated story to explain each bit of evidence. Someone once said that "The simplest solution that can explain everything is the right answer". Hmm... I can explain all of that in just 2 words."

That is usually how I knew she was lying.

When you spend 30 minutes telling me some elaborate story to explain something such as why you were late....

Usually a pretty good indication you have a liar on your hands that thought about the story "too much" and practiced it too many times. They go over and over their story due to fear or worry about being caught and they start thinking "but what if they ask about this? Ok, I can explain that this way"

Basically, they make the explanation more complicated then it needs to be.


"Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose" Janis Joplin

"God is great, beer is good and people are crazy"


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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, July 24th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, Bob, psycho is quite the "story teller", too.
Evasive asswipe who can talk about anything, and everything, & in such remarkable detail/length...except: Files n reconfiguration of our PC; Money; sex.
In that order...then he gets total "amnesiac"...

Masters of deceit n deception!

Well, the little slut will wake up one day when her arithmetic fails to add up, Dreamboat...presuming that she CAN "add" 2+2 = 4...ahem...
So:
Toot! Toot!! Bad karma, whore!

[This message edited by dreamlife at 2:48 PM, July 24th (Tuesday)]


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, July 25th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its a form of "torture"...the not knowing....


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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capri
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, July 25th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's not only the not knowing itself... it's the self-doubt it creates: am I crazy? Am I overly-jealous? Am I paranoid? Am I really making a mountain out of a molehill? or... am I being his fool once again? Am I 'enabling' and 'allowing' him to do this to me because I don't take a stand so it's really all my fault?

You find yourself calling your own character and intelligence and perceptions and ability to judge and all you thought you knew about human nature into question.

It's a power play-- always having to be the one with all the cards, forcing the other person to play in the dark without being able to see or know what the rules are. It's inherently bully-ish.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, July 26th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely RIGHT, capri!

Yesterday, I googled...'frustration'...

I don't even KNOW what psycho's REAL e-mail address is!

How crazy is this?!!

Whyyyyyy???

Fuckerrrrrr!

I loathe him!!!

How many on this thread do not know even their WS real e-mail address? just curious...


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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NoControl
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, July 26th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dreamlife- 1 vote for don't know real email address...never did.
GOD, I hate him.


"I Became Insane With Long Intervals of Horrible Sanity" -E.A. Poe

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SerJR
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, July 26th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes I wish I had filmed all the stories so that in the future WW can look at it sometime and see the crap she was trying to sell.


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, July 27th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, NoC, and I thought that I was the ONLY one in the world who did not KNOW his REAL addy!
Disgusting, creepy, and surreal, isn't it?
Its like not really knowing...just WHERE...he really...RESIDES.

I loathe him!!!!!!

AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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Sodown
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, July 27th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by Sodown at 9:07 PM, April 28th (Monday)]


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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, July 27th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sodown, how crazy is THIS:

psycho told me her name was "Jan"...and a .jpg (jan_redhead_pearls) turns out to be...an embedded highly encrypted AT&T Trust found by a tech I had in remotely!

No foto at all!

CONFUSION and "duping delight" seems to be the name of the game!

Translated into torture & frustration for ME!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, July 28th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone thought... WHY??

WHY is their BS soooo very, very SECRETIVE?

Does anyone have a clue as to WHY they would be this way?


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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capri
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, July 28th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, another here who didn't know her own spouse's e-mail address. I stumbled across the first one, trusted him TOTALLY when he said he closed it 'for the sake of the marriage,' stumbled across the second one, and figured out for myself that when he claimed to be an open book with that one (gave me the password and all) that he'd actually just moved ow1 to his work e-mail.

Does he have a third personal account set up now? He says he doesn't and that he's telling me the truth THIS time, so naturally I believe him....

This is a major reason he is not welcome in my bed anymore: if we're not even close enough to share e-mail addresses, we're certainly not close enough to be doing anything else. (Although there are plenty of other reasons, too.)


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, July 28th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

agree totally, capri...I know for a FACT that psycho has websites, (private) virtual directories, and numerous e-mail address here n there...oh, did I say businesses, too?

Probably PORN....

The key logger caught a bit...

Loathesome bastard!!!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, July 29th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am curious...when did you all in this thread start to feel...'in the dark'?


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, July 29th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The reason I am asking is because my WH seemed to be so "open" for nearly 3 years that we were in a long distance M...till he came to live with me permanently and all he did was be deceitful & dishonest, and lie, lie, LIE.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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ragingpain
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, July 29th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well for me it was on D-day.
He has never admitted ANYTHING and we live with the big fucking elephant staring me in the face every damn day.


And the flame burned away. But your still spittin' fire.
Make no difference what ya say. You're still a fuckin' liar.

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, July 29th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ohhh, raging, that is really so hard to deal with.

I went through this with my XH for over a month in my first M...its a wonder he's alive.

Which is why I kicked psycho OUT, too. He kept gaslighting my very short fuse...but, in retrospect, this is what he really wanted, I think...us having "seperate quarters" as he did *whatever* in between praying the rosary twice daily.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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