- Prostitutes in our house, both genders
- Handjobs at massage parlors
- Looking for hookups on Craigslist (none panned out, but he looked)
- Sexual encounters with random girls at bars, one semi-sexual encounter with a guy at his house, some random make-outs, many of which were attempted ONS that didn't happen for whatever reasons, and an actual ONS
- And one half-year EA/PA (well... more like a year, if you count the texting that went on before they started getting physical), where pretty much every betrayal that could happen, happened, short of him telling her he loved her.
It's a bit nuts, because all that happened in a 2-year period. We were together 5 years before that and as far as I know, no cheating during that time at all. Everything in our relationship was pretty awesome, and then we had a bit of a life change (moved overseas again), and it was like a switch flipped. Everything between us still seemed awesome, it's just that WH was kind of, I dunno. He went off the rails for two years.
I found out all of it at around the same time, couple months ago. Spent a couple months totally devastated, but this week has been much better. WH seems totally remorseful, feels like he just fell off a cliff (started with the prostitutes) and kept falling until things got insane and he couldn't get off the ride. I'm not justifying for him, that's just how he feels right now. I'm sure I'm in for a bunch more roller-coastering, but the last couple of days I've been mostly OK. Sadly, I've come to a place where I know I can walk if I need to. I wish I hadn't had to consider that, but there it is.
I strongly agree with some of the original posts on this thread. Because there were so many - I'm not even counting WH's attempted hook-ups that turned him down or never replied to his online offers, everything is kind of separated into two camps for me, the LTA and the rest of it. And all of *that* falls under the umbrella of "the affair period". WH says he's relieved it's over and he can start being the man he wants to be, the kind of person who doesn't hurt me anymore. He seems very sincere, he's doing the work, he's not complaining about doing the work at all. He seemed sincere during the affair period too, so... who knows?
For some reason it's been very easy for me to get over the professionals. The LTA completely laid me flat. He dropped her, no problem, the day I found out though. No fence-sitting.
I guess what I'm asking is: is there anyone else with a similar situation? A period where your WS went kind of nuts and acted on all kinds of screwed up behavior, then turned it around for good?
[This message edited by Thessalian at 11:52 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]
Prostitutes, ONSs, and one 7-month LTA (total time: 2 years). Have lost count of OPs, probably 12 or so. LTA was by far most damaging.
DDay 1: Aug 20, 2013
DDay 2: Aug 22, 2013
Whole truth: Sept 10, 2013
Thanks so much. Can you describe what you mean by "sexually anorexic" for most of his life?