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User Topic: Double Betrayal
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, June 3rd (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hurt,

She's not your friend if she would do that with your spouse.

She is toxic to you and your marriage. Push her out of your life, she will never tell you the truth.

Sorry you are here. 5 of WS s FBs (Fuck Buddies) were "friends" of mine. BTDT.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6330 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
caretoomuch
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, June 3rd (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry to see the pain here of double betrayal. When its a close family member even more yuk.
Remember it doesnt define you at all .It defines them and their psychopathology. There is no justification under the sun to allow this...NONE.
The true healing will occur when you realize it is about them and their memory will pass thru your mind without flinching an emtional response. Those people who took advantage of the ultimate trust and betrayed it, will reflect and deeply know what they are.But those peolple are now dead to you. They dont exist. You may forgive them as the years fade but you dont owe them that. You owe them nothing. Its a loss but we all know losses can be got over. ....and so life goes on. As with any addiction your spouse has a battle. For those who's spouses are keeping NC good luck. If their remorse is true, I hope they can keep a lid on their self disgust. If it seems easy they're not even close.

[This message edited by caretoomuch at 10:48 PM, June 3rd (Sunday)]


2006..Me 48
WW 47 OCD/ Sex Abuse by brother
Married 21 years,together 27
Teenagers
PA when engaged and now 3 1/2 yr PA with best friend
Dday 10 Nov 2006
Dont feel too bad ,people destroy the ones they love all the time.Its n

Posts: 640 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: floating, 2012..going
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, June 4th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hurt,

My husband was so intoxicated on d-day that he swears he doesn't remember how it started or who started.

My X gave me this line also. Evertime I asked a question I got a different answer. I would not admit to anything until confronted with proof, and even then he denied.

Hell, I caught them in bed together and they BOTH denied they had an A!! WTF??

I did not talk to her, I threw her out of my house that day. He claimed it was the only time at first. Then I found evidence that they stayed in a motel 2 months earlier. He claimed nothing happened.

At this point, both your so-called "friend" and you WH are doing damage control. They will admit to nothing. They will deny everything. Do not trust what they say. I found my proof by looking thru credit card records, bank records, cell phone records,.... When confronted each time the pattern was the same: 1) deny; 2) shift blame; 3) become angry; 4) blame shift some more;

Good luck to you and (((hugs)))


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17285 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
redfroggy
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, June 5th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS had an affair with the girlfriend of his best friends girlfriend. Yup, you read that right. She was a double dipper. BF and GF were also roommates. If that wasn't enough. He had a 3some with both girls.


I give a lot of tough love, nothing personal, because sometimes toughness is what you need to move forward.
Betrayal and reconciliation 2004
Now seperated for much more complicated reasons.
The love of my life DS 2005

Posts: 599 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Maryland
me+6
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, June 19th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am brand new to this site and I am just amazed that others have experieced so much of what I have been through in the last few months. One Friday afternoon I spent hours trying to get a hold of my H. I was getting upset and while trying to call him I watched Dr. Phil of course he was talking about Affairs. For whatever reason I decided to check H's voice mail on his cell. It was the I heard detailed lovin messages from a very good friend of ours. This woman was planning on watching our children for us that very evening. I became hysterical, crying barely breathig etc. My H finally decided to call me back and he did not deny anything. My next step was to call the ow's H (he was also a good friend). Of course this has totally turned our world upside down. We live in a very small town and word of the A spread like wildfire. We have six children and our three oldest could not be spared knowing the truth. It's been about three months since D day and we are stuggling. I wonder if there are others out there that have found a small town almost impossible to live in after this happens. I see the ow several times a week and the worst part is so many of our so called mutual friends have decided to continue to hang out with this couple - we have pretty much lost all of our friends. I really want to move but my H feels that is running away from our problems. I think a fresh start would be so helpful as we TRY to R. Please anyone out there that can Help!!!!


me-36 WH-37
Married 16 years together 18
6 children (5,7,8,12,14,16)
DDay - March 4th 2007
DDay #2 September 13, 2008 EA
Separated Oct 24, 2008
7/1/09 He is coming home!
Beginning to R

Posts: 694 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: East Coast
Pennico
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, June 19th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello Me:

I just wanted to welcome you and say that I'm sorry that you are here. It is a wonderful site and as you can see from my profile, I was also betrayed by my husband and good friend and neighbor. I was totally blindsided and had no idea. I don't live in a small town but I do live directly across the street from the FOW (former other woman). It has been a year since discovery and this whole year has been the worst I have ever had. My mother died 2 months before I found out about the A as well. You still can live near the OW and actually come to a point where you start to be able to not think about the A twentyfour seven. It has taken me over a year to do this. I was obsessed and in shock the first 6 months. It took a husband that was very willing to R or lose his family. The FOW is still married, and hopefully will move. I do not even look her way anymore. I hold my head up. Living well is the best revenge. Fake it until you make it. Time will eventually heal - but it is such a slow process.

Best of luck.

Penn


BS - 50
FWH - 50
D-Day - 4/9/06 (with next-door neighbor/friend)
Married 18 years
2 girls (16 & 13)
Update 8-26-11 . . She MOVED!

Healed after five years and with God's Grace.


Posts: 172 | Registered: May 2006 | From: West Coast
flipper
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, June 19th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

me+6,

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this situation.

I understand your feelings and reasons for wanting to move. They are all real and valid.

Living in a small town can be hard at the best of times let alone when dealing with this crap.

I sometimes feel like running away as well but decided I wasn't giving up all the good things about where I live. Thankfully, my FWH will do whatever I feel is needed to move forward.

Only you can decide if this is a "must do" to move forward. Your H needs to understand how important this is to you and your R.

I wish you well in your decision.

flipper


Me: 40
FWH: 40
married 17 years - no kids
DD: 14th Oct 2006
DD2: 18th Feb 2007 - Full details disclosed

Both giving our best to R.


Posts: 311 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Australia
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, June 20th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear Me.,

Small town here too!!!!

In fact, SI has more members then there are people in my town.

Anyway...Did YOU have the affair? Then walk around town with your head up high. Don't slink and shy away from people. Learn everything you can about infidelity and become a walking talking billboard about it.

Yup...you are married to a scum. But that doesn't mean YOU are scum. That's reserved for your WS and the OW. Go out and live your life. Volunteer. Be seen in public. Get a make-over and look great. Live well.

And those people who still are friends with the OW? Then they aren't friends of yours.

{{{hugs}}}}

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6330 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
hurtonceagain
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, June 20th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was also betrayed by my husband and a friend.. Not only once but twice. The first one occured when we first moved to florida. I meet a girl and we became friends very quickly.. we liked the same things (Obvisouly).. then whenever she had any problems with her hsuband she would come over to my house and spend the day.. and eventually we (me her and my H would go out clubbing etc.).. to make this story very short I found out that they were having an affair.. when i confronted her she denied it and he blamed me for everything.. I am not sure how we were able to get over that one. (my H as had many other affairs througth the years).. but i told him.. that if he ever cheated again we would never be able to recover.. that I was on my last leg with him.. well fast foward a year later we became friends with a couple who the husband worked in BIL store.. me and her did not become friends so quickly.. me due to my distrust of females and her just cause she seemed to be a cold person.. eventualy we became friends and would head over to herhouse for barbeque's. dinners, movies, etc.. just to hang out.. my H even tried to get her a job with at his office. Anyway last year in April i discovered that they had been having an affair for at least 8 months.. i was/ams devesated by this. I have never gotten over this betrayal. He has refused to leave for the past year.. and i finally told him that i was no longer in love with him. That i could never forget nor forgive what he put me through..

As for the OW.. her H ended up finding out 4 months after I did... and when he found out she called my H to tell him that I had been having an affair for years with someone in NY (thats were we are from).. Of course non of its true.. but she knew that my other friend had told him the same story to get him to belive that i was not as innocent as I protray myself to be. She hated it whenever he would say that I was a good wife and trust worthy and that he has never had any reasons to doubt me. Wells he wanted to give him one.. but he didn't believe her.. Only when the second OW said it did he say oh see 2 of your "friends" have siad it.. I was like yeah you retard.. Of course she is going to say anything to make herself look better then the lying whore that she is.. I mean come on.. I ended up writing her a really long e-mail posted below. I got out everythin i needed to.. before i wrote the e-mail she had e-mailed me to apoligize for the affair.. that she did it cause my H empowered her during her times of need.. She was supposeldy no longer in love with her H and wanted out..
Anyway below is my letter to her and it felt wonderful to send it to her..


G,

I truly think you need help. I think what you have is called Bi-Polar disorder. You make no sense in the things you say or try to insinuate. As for you deciding to move on and not interfere in my life.. lol. sweetie.. you had no choice. I never gave you the option to continue to be in my life.. nor in J. But if it makes you feel better to think that then by all means.. please continue to amuse yourself in such a manner. When it concerns the car. I could really care less what was discussed or not between you and your "friend". I am not taking the car loan out in my name now nor ever for that matter. I have an e-mail from you dated back to April 25, 2006, in which you sated" I will forward to you the signed agreement in reference to the car". Legally that is all I need to prove a verbal contract in reference to the car. "I would really hate to continue to call every month". Is that suppose to bother me? If you feel the need to call please do so. I will make the car payments at my earliest convenience. Just as you stated you would give me the signed agreement for the car at your earliest convenience. In response to having someone else do me a favor like you did.. Just exactly what was your favor? Screwing MY husband? Or let me see Ruining my children's family? or showing me that you can trust no one? I need no one to do me favors. I will take care of my things on my own. I need no one. Unlike you, who seems to need other women's husbands to validate who you are in life. That is so sad not to mention pathetic .

As to your comment about becoming close to me to get to J. Once again you need to pay better attention to what I said. This will be the second time I tell you yes. I know that, however it still does not negate the fact that you still crossed over a line that should have never been crossed. And your right there is no justification for doing what u did. You want to say you were vulnerable, fragile and needed empowerment. You should feel ashamed. Having those needs you decide that the way to appease your feelings was to destroy a family. Your personalities did match.. You are both Liars, Cheats and Whores, of course you matched.. I could have told you that one. Didn't your mother ever teach you to be a good moral person and to keep your legs crossed. You talk about how he empowered you to get control of your life. All you are doing is admitting that you are a weak and worthless person. You need someone to validate who you are. I feel so sorry for you. No matter what I have gone through with J I have never needed anyone to validate who I am. Do you know Why? Because I am a good person. I have values and morals. I am a good wife, friend, mother and person. Unlike you it seems. You cared nothing of destroying a family in order to appease your own selfish feelings. Also I would suggest that my son's name never crosses your mouth again. You have the audacity to mention my son's name when you turn around and destroy his life. You have nerve. And just so that your clear I have never/nor will I ever worry about you taking J from me nor my kids. lol..lol.. All you were to J was a piece of ass. You gave it, he took it just like every other whore. If you ever thought you were something more then PLEASE GET OVER URSELF....

Yes I know I was a good friend. I have morals, values, character and a love of self. Something that you seem to have not received in life. No matter how sorry you are for what you did it will never be enough to repair the damage that you two have caused. The damaged that you created to validate and empower yourself is forever lasting.. but hey.. you were empowered right?? I guess that was worth it. And you have some nerve saying to me that you hope this taught me and Jj to appreciate and respect one another. It seems that the one that needs to learn about appreciation and respect is you and J. I am not the whore that you are.. so please do not refer to me in the same text as J nor you. You really need to take a close look at yourself. You have slept with two of Carlos's friends and you talk about respect. You have no respect for others or yourself. Its such a shame because a woman who cannot respect herself is nothing more then a cheap slut. I can only hope to god that you do not pass on your set of morals and values to your children. Your daughter deserves to be more then a whore like her mother. I can also guarantee you that I will never go through what you and J put me through ever again. I was "EMPOWERED" by the actions of you two disgusting people and am much better person for it. Also please do not ascertain to know anything of my life. You say that you are happy that J and I remain together yet I deserve better. You know nothing of my life and my decision.. so keep your ridiculous comments to yourself. All of a sudden you care to tell me what I deserve. Please.. you are so disgusting.

As for following up with your suggestion.. I guess I don't have to tell you were you can stick that suggestion do I.

Take care

[This message edited by hurtonceagain at 4:23 PM, June 28th (Thursday)]


Me: 33
Him (WS) 40
Two Kids; son 5, daughter 14
married:7 years

Posts: 36 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Miami, FL
left field
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm new to S/I and only 6-7 wks post d-day. I too belong to this club as my FWH had a 3-month EA/PA with my former friend/nextdoor neighbor. Some of the initial shock is finally wearing off. I found out about them by checking cell phone records and eventually my FWH admitted to everything.

That day I could barely breathe or get out of bed. I just felt like screaming and running away. I couldn't wait for it to be morning so I could confront her. My two best girlfriends helped me be strong enough to tell her spouse. While I was screaming at her in front of her spouse, she just had the nerve to smile at me.

Now I see her smirking face everywhere and I hate living next door to that FB. The posts on SI have helped though. StupidMe in particular as she advised me not to be the hunted but the hunter instead. I did nothing wrong and I hope she sees me being happy when she's hopefully miserable. I seriously hope Karma will take care of that c*nt.

My FWH is very very remorseful and is trying his best to fix things but he isn't innocent and I'm trying hard to understand and make peace with it. I keep thinking that life could be so much worse, but not much.....

WTF do people think by doing this to a friend? It makes me crazy to know that I was so duped by her. She never apologized and wanted him to leave me for her. UGH!!!! Our kids are friends - at the very least you would think she would feel bad about that!!!

I still hate being in my yard and wondering if she is sneaking glances out her window to see my FWH. I am so paranoid that if I come home late from work, they'll have more opportunities to see each other. There has been NC since dday and I'm anal retentive about checking our phone and cell records.

I can't wait to move!!!!! Thanks for all the support for our awful situations.


Me: BS 34
Him: WH 36
Son: 9
Daughter: 13
Married 13+ years
DDay 5/14/07
Baby steps toward R

Posts: 15 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Ohio
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((left field))

It must be so hard living next to her. She was never your friend. She pretended to be but she was not.

Take good care of yourself. You are so close to d-day, I am sure it still seems unreal.

((hugs))


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17285 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{{{hugs}}}}}leftie.

Welcome to our little club.

Like you I don't get why they would do this to us, but they did and we just have to deal with it.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6330 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
nurslynn
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My stbx had affir with neighbour/friend as well....2 years ago it was an EA....followed supposedly by a year of no contact. Then I found out he was having a PA with her for the past year. It broke my heart in two. He left his family and moved in with her and her kids, after her H moved out. We sold our home and are divorcing. It is so hard to deal with when there is a "friend" involved as well. It still makes my mind spin when I try to figure it all out. How 2 people can be so selfish and self serving is beyond me. May the karma bus hit them soon. I hope your marraige weathers the storm Leftfield...a word of advice...MOVE AWAY from her and the sooner the better!!! She is poison!!! Hugs, Lynn

Posts: 31 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Canada
struggling_so
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Frustrated  Posted: 9:45 PM, July 10th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know if my story is considered full fledge cheating, but it feels like it. About 2 months ago I found out that my WH had kissed my friend. She told me about it but only told me that he tried to kiss her but she stopped him. She then went so far as to call him and have me on the other line silent to show me that he was wanting to have a relationship with her. When I confronted him later he admitted to actually making out with her and that she started it. She had tried to have sex with him, and he refused. Then for 4 months they discussed them being together. I have decided to forgive him and R. It is so hard to trust him when he says he really does love me and that he wants to be with me. I am also having trouble believing him that kissing is the only thing that happened. To make things worse, she is my neighbors girlfriend so I have to see her quite often. I don't know what to do and I was hoping that someone who has been there can help me. I still have nightmares about it. To make matters worse, my husband is a truck driver and is gone for weeks at a time. I found myself wondering all the time. Will I ever be able to trust him again?

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flipper
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Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, July 13th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

struggling so,

I'm so sorry for you that you are here.

I hate to be the one to say it but please be aware that there may be more to the story than you are aware.

My H told me it was just a kiss. 4 months later I got the truth. It was a 6 month PA.

I'm not saying that this is the same in your case but I just want you to be aware there may be more to the story.

My H travels a lot for work as well so I understand your pain there. Even though his A happened at home and not away, it's close to the stage where he will have to change jobs as I can't handle him being away.

You can't begin to heal and hopefully trust again one day until you know the full truth.

I wish you all the best.

((hugs))

flipper


Me: 40
FWH: 40
married 17 years - no kids
DD: 14th Oct 2006
DD2: 18th Feb 2007 - Full details disclosed

Both giving our best to R.


Posts: 311 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Australia
lmwk123
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, July 14th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My h had approx 6 wk affair w/ neighbor and so called friend. Our kids played together and I was even watching her son the day she confessed to her h. Both parties remained with their partners and neither family is in a good enough financial situation to move. Affair occured mostly in my home about the same time I became pregnant. I asked h if it was before I told him I was pregnant or not and of course he can't remember. That I don't understand. You think you could remember something like that evem though it was over a year ago. The affair Happened about a year ago but h finally confessed about a month ago. Said he couldn't take it anymore but I think it was because I knew in my heart that the things that I saw that it was true. I was ready to leave. Just feel really stupid that I didn't check more into what I saw with my own eyes. I feel so nieve. I could have possibly prevented things. I knew she was always attracted to my h and both her h and mine said that she felt like she was in love w/ my h. He didn't feel the same way and I believe that's what ended the relationship even though she told her h that she was feeling guilty. Were going to start therapy. How do you live without replaying the same movie over and over in your head. Whenever I see her, which unfortunately is everyday I image the 2 of them together and it's so hard. I feel like she only became my friend to get to my h. I had the opportunity to talk to her but at the time I was still foolish enough to believe my h lies and told her I didn't believe anything happened. It would have help if I knew the truth then so I could understand alittle why it happened. I worry that she may still think she's in love w/ my h. We saw her at the store the other week and I believe she came down the same isle as us (face to face) didn't say anything (we were only one's in the isle) but I was shaking. I wanted to scream. Last week she walked the dog and didn't cross the street until right before our driveway. I can remember sitting at the kitchen table and she came into my house like always and was standing very close to my h. I wanted to say something but didn't as I knew she had this school girl crush on my h and thought she just liked the attention. She had been with her h as a early teenage and is in mid 30's now. Never in my wildest dreams could I image this could happen. I don't see how my h could continue every day as if nothing was different. I will say I recall him being very nasty to me throughout my pregnant. Even told me several times he wished I wasn't pregnant. She's now pregnant and I know she didn't want another child but her h did. So looks like I'll have to continue to have a child playing with her kids. I'm sure her h blames most of this on my h. They even purchased her a new car right after all this occured. How do you handle when someone is so close?


A- 11/06-5/07
I believe more A's throughout
3 kids
together 16 yrs

What doesn't kill me, makes me stronger.
Life is a test.


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flipper
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Default  Posted: 5:33 AM, July 15th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lmwk123,

If this woman is going to be around you then you have to find a way to protect yourself.

My OW is my SIL and for obvious reasons I still have to see her at times.

My way of dealing with it is to pretend she doesn't exist. I don't speak to her. I don't look at her. I don't acknowledge her in any way at all.

It does make it uncomfortable for others but it is the ONLY way I can deal with it. The alternative is to rip her damn head off and that wouldn't help the family at all.

I refuse to allow her to push me out of MY family gatherings. I have every right to see my family and she has no right to stop me.

It hurts like hell when I see her but I just keep telling myself that she is a non entity to me. I won't give her any space in my head. Easier said that done though.

My FWH is great and spends all his time glued to my side whenever we see her. I watch closely, he doesn't even look in her direction.

If you HAVE to see this woman then you and your H need to talk about how you handle yourselves when she is around.

Good Luck and heaps of hugs...

flipper


Me: 40
FWH: 40
married 17 years - no kids
DD: 14th Oct 2006
DD2: 18th Feb 2007 - Full details disclosed

Both giving our best to R.


Posts: 311 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Australia
feelsodeceived
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, July 23rd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ow in my life lives two doors down. She was my best friend. After 9 months of looking at that skank i have finally put my house up for sale. Life is too short to spend looking at a constant reminder of my husband and friends betrayal.


It takes a long time, but life does go on

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madathim
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, July 23rd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H had an ONS with my FBB over a year ago. The awful thing was she just went through a terrible time in her life and I was the only one who didn't turn their back on her, I put my life on hold to help her. Rescheduled my work schedule to take her to doctors. Called her everyday and listened to her scream how she wanted to committ suicide, run out there, and try to help her. She needed something fixed, I sent my H out there to fix it, they got drunk, and she went down on him (if you know what I mean). I am trying to put my life back together, we both are. Even though I forgave her doesn't mean I want her back in my life ever again. She just called me again trying to beg for my friendship about 2 months ago, I told her I forgive her but that doesn't mean I need her in my life. I have enough going on without all the other drama. The thing I don't understand is why do they ruin their marriage for someone who is unstable and not even close to being good-looking. Come on if I was going to do it at least I'd make it worth my while...lol

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madathim
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, July 23rd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H had an ONS with my FBB over a year ago. The awful thing was she just went through a terrible time in her life and I was the only one who didn't turn their back on her, I put my life on hold to help her. Rescheduled my work schedule to take her to doctors. Called her everyday and listened to her scream how she wanted to committ suicide, run out there, and try to help her. She needed something fixed, I sent my H out there to fix it, they got drunk, and she went down on him (if you know what I mean). I am trying to put my life back together, we both are. Even though I forgave her doesn't mean I want her back in my life ever again. She just called me again trying to beg for my friendship about 2 months ago, I told her I forgive her but that doesn't mean I need her in my life. I have enough going on without all the other drama. The thing I don't understand is why do they ruin their marriage for someone who is unstable and not even close to being good-looking. Come on if I was going to do it at least I'd make it worth my while...lol

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