[This message edited by Obliterated9584 at 1:17 PM, June 26th (Thursday)]
On another note: My H's first day back, and the OW starts whining about how no one remembered her birthday in the office, and then asks if my H had had lunch yet!! Funny thing though; I'd told him to be aware of "fishing", that thing AP do to try to weasel their way back in. He now tells me any and all instances where she starts fishing, whether it's for compliments, pity, or any kind of attention. As for the lunch comment, after she asked him if he'd had lunch yet, her stomach growled really loudly and he replied "Well I guess that means you haven't eaten yet. Better go do that." And walked away from her.
XWH died Dec. 2010
I totally understand how those who's WS still works together with the OP can feel.
That said, tonight he ticked me off. For whatever reason (oh, yeah, someone is on vacation who makes out scheduling with the FOW, so my H took it away from her completely so he didn't have to work closely with her, as she wanted) he said the he "thinks he has it harder, because he has to see her every day and be reminded of his mistake". I disagree: after all, I was the one CHEATED ON. I guess we agree to disagree. More or less.
Thank you. I hope as time marches on he gets that WTF feeling, he has told me several times he had wanted to end it sooner but had no idea how to do it. He has admitted to thinking about her as in how is she doing? He says not every day, but, I know he feels "badly" for her and can I understand how difficult it was to tell her to her face he made a mistake. It has been about 6 weeks that he ended it with her. Today I feel a little better, they have about 5 days where their paths won't cross. I had found some letters from her from when the A was new, I read them out loud to him, of course at the time he only heard the ILY and the sex is great, while I was reading them he could hear the calculation and the insults to me in them. Then I told him about the phone calls she made months ago to me, I was so mad I did, I had no intention of telling him, but, maybe it was a good thing. I was trying so hard to be the bigger person, but, maybe he will look at her now and realize the feeling "badly" should be all about me.
To all those who WSs have Monday-Friday jobs, happy sucky Monday!
This is the thing that gets me. Does he think, given the fact that she knew me and my kids, and that I was the one who got her the job there, that she is basically a good person who made the wrong decision. Or does he see her for the whore she is. Knowing us makes it worse in my book. And when confronted she was defiant.
She's trash as far as I'm concerned. Absolute trash. I can't bear the thought of him thinking she's someone who made a bad decision...again and again with video and pictures to go along with it.
I hate this. I just continue to endure...calling out on Jesus when I can't take it!
"If I'm not the one thing you can't stand to lose..consider me gone."