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User Topic: Support Through Prayer
capri
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, July 5th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My prayers are with all of you. As terrible as the pain is sometimes, it's equally hard to see that someone else is suffering it. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I am requesting prayers tonight for DH to loosen his grip on his pride. Things got really ugly tonight, and I told him we have now started a 6 month in-house separation.

His attitude through all of this is to SAY "I'm remorseful, I quit, didn't I?" but to be ANGRY with me, or annoyed with me, to play word games to explain how none of this is really what it seems, to say he'd be angry if I did the same things, but... what did he actually DO?

Long story short, I called when I got home and told him since he keeps insisting his weekly... uh... meetings? coffees?... with another woman (and lying to me about it) weren't 'dates' per se... I'm going to go out each week for drinks with another man while he stays home with the kids. He said okay.

He says he doesn't like it, but he will still not admit that what he did was WRONG.

It's like he's got a steel rod where other people have the slightest touch of human empathy. Please pray that God would break this destructive over-blown sense of pride. He's at work tonight. I told him I'm leaving at 9 unless I hear some real sense of remorse from him. That's in an hour and fifteen minutes.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

Posts: 4483 | Registered: Jun 2007
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, July 5th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Heartbroken - I am praying and know that God will provide for you and your gorgeous girls. You are so brave - a role model for us all.

Thank you all fro your prayers. Praying the list tonight.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 1:33 AM, July 6th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lord, Thank you for our countless blessings.

Please watch over him and guide him to you. Help him Lord, find clarity in the real world. Bring responsibility to his eyes and heart. Help him deal with his responsibility. Teach him how to forgive himself. Keep him safe.

In Jesus' name I pray.
Amen


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
akaKatie
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, July 7th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is a beautiful and loving prayer, Gingersnap.

I also count my blessings every day. I usually do this first thing in the morning, but I think I will do this at night too.

You're a good person, Gingersnap.

Now - go get a massage. Your body and spirit need it.


Me - BS, 58 (I'm Katie)
Him - WS, 60
Friends since 1965, together since 1968, married in 1972
3 adult children
LTA - EA/PA/EA 1993(?)-2000
OW: Obsessed with H since 1965, continues "friendship" with MIL
D-Day: H told me May 2006

Posts: 210 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: By the water
tater
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, July 7th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

capri - my Wh also has no empathy. Part of it is his job (he's a firefighter/paramedic and has to emotionally distance himslef at work - problem is he never turns it on anywhere else!) Saying a prayer.

ginger- I've kept up w/ your story. I know you're struggling - I'm saying a prayer for you honey.


Me: BS 40 (Yikes)
WH: 40 (LTA)
3 children 12, 7 and 5

Posts: 1125 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: emotional rollercoaster in the midwest
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, July 7th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know why but I beleive that if I write out my prayers in here, the Lord will here me louder. Does that make sense? Maybe it's because I know it has the possibility of more people praying with me. Power in numbers.

Dear Lord, thank you for the over abundance of health and love you have given my family. The blessing you have given me are many and far reaching. Thank you for my friends here at SI. They are gifts from you, I know it. I do not take them for granted, God.

Please, dear Lord, hold him in your hand. Help me find my way. Forgive me for my sins, dear Lord. My mind is weak from the constant battle.

Praise that I've nearly made it through another day.
Amen

akaKatie: I saw that in another thread, LOL thanks so much for your precious consistent kindness.

tater - thank you.

capri - sorry for your frustration.

Infidelity kills self-esteem, self-worth, dignity, hope, love, and souls. I pray I never hurt anyone this much.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
capri
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, July 8th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

capri - my Wh also has no empathy. Part of it is his job (he's a firefighter/paramedic and has to emotionally distance himslef at work - problem is he never turns it on anywhere else!) Saying a prayer.

Interesting-- mine does security in a large county hospital. He works quite closely at times with the EMTs (*cough* OW#3's FAVORITE people-- she appears to be working her way through the EMT's and security guards, married or not.)

I wonder if that's part of what's going on here. It doesn't seem like it should be so hard to have some love or empathy for your own wife, though.

Thank you for the prayers.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

Posts: 4483 | Registered: Jun 2007
Anjin
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, July 8th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tired and sad...tonight will be rough. We had a great weekend, but she's staying at her place tonight...just reminds me that it's my fault we're not here together. God, please give me patience and wisdom. please help heal her heart. please forgive my mistakes and help us get through this.


Me: H 37 FWS
Her: W 34 BS
Married 11 years, Together 15
D-day April 17th 2006
Still hopeful for R
Psalm 51

Posts: 146 | Registered: Aug 2006
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, July 9th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

praying Anjin's beautiful list. Blessed day to you all.
G


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
hearbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, July 9th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anjin, praying that God is helping to heal your BS and give you the guidance to heal your M.

Ginger, praying that God gives you strength to face each new day.

Also, praying the list for each one here. Thank you for each member on this site who all have something to offer. Help each person on this thread, and who lend support to the others here.

God, please give me strength for tomorrow and my H, as well. Let truth prevail and the OW not to. Let the law suit finish soon. Give us endurance and guidance as only You can.

Heartbroken


Dday1 8/05 (LTA)
Dday2 4/09 (online EA 2 weeks then confessed)
Dday 3 8/10 ("full disclosure" of more infidelity prior to 2009)

Posts: 869 | Registered: Sep 2005
soverysad
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Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, July 10th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Anjin))))
((((Capri))))
((((Ginger))))((((Heartbroken))))

Praying for you all and the others here. Asking for prayers for our situation. Clarity and the ability to sleep. I need strength.



Posts: 518 | Registered: May 2007
FeelLikeDying
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, July 10th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Anjin for your prayers.

Saying a prayer for everyone this afternoon. I know that God hears us and feels our pain. I know that weeping my endure for a night - and joy comes in the morning. I'm just asking God to hurry up with the joy for all our lives.

He wouldn't bring us through this if he didn't think we could handle it.

God is good and today we will give Him praise!!

All of us here believe that You will bring us through Lord God and we thank you for holding us tight.



Posts: 175 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Kentucky
lied2
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, July 11th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need some prayers.

I am in my last term of 4th year of university. I am really struggling this term because my son has had 2 surgeries and my ex does next to nothing to help me with the kids. I have so much work to do the next 2 weeks that I am unable to really focus and get it together.

I am so close to done and don't want to screw it up because I am too stressed but I am spinning right now.

Thanks everyone

(((((((everyone)))))


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


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Anjin
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, July 11th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

praying for all, especially lied2


Me: H 37 FWS
Her: W 34 BS
Married 11 years, Together 15
D-day April 17th 2006
Still hopeful for R
Psalm 51

Posts: 146 | Registered: Aug 2006
capri
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, July 11th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lied2, my prayers are with you.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

Posts: 4483 | Registered: Jun 2007
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, July 11th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lied2 - you can do it. We have a ring of prayer power here for you. Sending you strength, enthusiasm, and more strength.

You've came this far - see the light at the end of the tunnel - it's so close you can touch it!
G

ETA: My prayer. Dear Lord please help him face what I know he is trying to avoid. Help him accept responsibility for his behavior, and grant him forgiveness when he reaches for it. Help him to become remorseful. RemorseFULL. Lord hold him and keep him. Forgive our sins.
Amen
G

[This message edited by Gingersnap at 11:45 PM, July 11th (Wednesday)]


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
Anjin
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, July 12th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for everyone here.

Anyone else like Steve Taylor? I think this song sums up the trials, temptations, failures, and ultimately the hope that we as Christians face. No one is perfect, but that doesn't mean we have to resign ourselves to failure. He is our hope and our forgiveness. All we have to do is trust and believe.

from "The Finish Line" by Steve Taylor

Once upon an average morn
An average boy was born for the second time
Prone upon the altar there
He whispered up the prayer he'd kept hid inside

The vision came
He saw the odds
A hundred little gods on a gilded wheel
"These will vie to take your place, but Father,
by Your grace I wil never kneel"

And I saw you, upright and proud
And I saw you wave to the crowd
And I saw you laughing out loud at the Philistines
And I saw you brush away rocks
And I saw you pull up your socks
And I saw you out of the blocks
For the finish line

Darkness falls
The devil stirs
And as your vision blurs you start stumbling
The heart is weak
The will is gone
And every strong conviction comes tumbling down

Malice rains
The acid guile is sucking at your shoes while the mud is fresh
It floods the trail
It bleeds you dry
As every little god buys its pound of flesh

And I saw you licking your wounds
And I saw you weave your cocoons
And I saw you changing your tunes for the party line
And I saw you welsh on old debts
I saw you and your comrades bum cigarettes
And you hemmed and you hawed
And you hedged all your bets
Waiting for a sign

Let's wash our hands as we throw little fits
Let's all wash our hands as we curse hypocrites
We're locked in the washroom turning old tricks
Deaf
And joyless
And full of it

The vision came
He saw the odds
A hundred little gods on a gilded wheel
"These have tried to take your place, but Father,
by Your grace I will never kneel
I will never kneel..."

Off in the distance
Bloodied but wise
As you squint with the light of the Truth in your eyes

And I saw you
Both hands were raised
And I saw your lips move in praise
And I saw you steady your gaze
For the finish line

Every idol like dust
A Word scattered them all
And I rose to my feet when you scaled the last wall
And I gasped
When I saw you fall
In His arms
At the finish line...


Me: H 37 FWS
Her: W 34 BS
Married 11 years, Together 15
D-day April 17th 2006
Still hopeful for R
Psalm 51

Posts: 146 | Registered: Aug 2006
tater
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, July 15th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

God bless all those who are hurting. Fill their hearts with Your love and Your peace. Bless the children of all ages who are affected by this. Please help those who have been betrayed to find their hope in you. Please help those who have betrayed those that love them to find peace in their hearts and turn to You.
Amen


Me: BS 40 (Yikes)
WH: 40 (LTA)
3 children 12, 7 and 5

Posts: 1125 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: emotional rollercoaster in the midwest
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 12:38 AM, July 16th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen tater.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
soverysad
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, July 16th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Asking for prayers this week. We go to court and try to get financial justice. Just asking for the numbers to be based on truth, not lies.



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