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User Topic: Support Through Prayer
tater
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, July 1st (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Capri - welcome. I too struggled with the prayer thing. I prayed for my H to be faithful - I prayed if he wasn't faithful that I would find out. If I would've found out 1 year earlier, it wouldn't have turned into PA.

I finally made peace with the fact that until it went PA, WH wouldn't have thought of it as an A. I also don't know if I would have been strong enough to handle things any earlier.

I know my struggle now is as I pray for WH - I realize that he has free will and may decide to make choices that are not God's will.

Saying a prayer.


Me: BS 40 (Yikes)
WH: 40 (LTA)
3 children 12, 7 and 5

Posts: 1125 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: emotional rollercoaster in the midwest
Anjin
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not much of an orator, and definitely no Maia...but I am praying for all of you...

momofthree2007 – Lord, help strengthen her and carry her through this difficult time. Help her to feel your presence and comfort, so that she knows she is not alone.

Soverysad – God please be with her and her H as they deal with her H’s unemployment, and the stress that this causes. Strengthen and support them, and we ask that you help them come together to face this new stress as one, with love and support for each other, rather than it becoming a source of divisiveness.

Capri – Lord, give her wisdom, strength, and insight. Help her and her husband come together and let the truth be shown for what it is, and help them deal with that together. Lead them to you, together, Lord.

Gingersnap – Lord, minister to her, strengthen and comfort her, and help her to see your will in all of this, and to feel your presence.

Heartbroken – God, please give your strength and presence, and guidance through this time.

Tater - Lord, help her as she weighs this decision. Counsel and guide her, and give her your strength. We ask that you help her WH see his sins, and become repentant and remorseful.

Insomuchpain – Lord, please continue to strengthen and comfort her.

fallenangel02 - God please comfort, strengthen, and minister to her. Help her feel your presence in her life. Protect her through these trials and help her find your peace.

FeelLikeDying - Lord please minister to her, and comfort and strengthen her. Help her to hear your response to her prayers. Please help turn her WH’s heart towards you, and help strengthen him against temptation, and help them together begin to work on their marriage.

HowToForget – We pray for the strength and wisdom that they need now, and bless their efforts in counseling. Help her to truly forgive her WH and help her find peace of mind.

Ruthesther – Help her to feel your presence, to hear your answer to your prayers, and have the strength and resolve to move forward.

LuvMyWH – Continue to support and nurture her, and strengthen her marriage. Help her to deal with the stresses and demands that life gives to her constructively, and give her and her husband your peace.

Unicornsearcher – God please be a source of comfort and strength. Keep her through any dark times, and protect her.

Lord, there are numerous others who visit this forum, seeking Your face. Help us all - you know our hearts Lord, and you know our hopes and fears. You hear our prayers. Help us to hear your answers, Lord, and to recognize that they may be different from what we had hoped. Help us to remember Lord that all things work to good for those that love you. Give us the strength to endure what we must. Bolster our faith when it is low. Please do not let the stress of our own problems bog us down so much that we fail to support others that need it. Thank you God for the countless blessings that you give us every day, and please keep us mindful of these, and do not let them get lost in the details. Your will be done Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen.


Me: H 37 FWS
Her: W 34 BS
Married 11 years, Together 15
D-day April 17th 2006
Still hopeful for R
Psalm 51

Posts: 146 | Registered: Aug 2006
capri
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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tater, thank you for reminding me of another way of seeing it. I know this, but need continual reminding.

To whoever talked about imagining yourself walking with Jesus and just talking as a friend, thank you. I have found it very helpful and comforting. I'm sure plenty of others have, too, and we just never know how wide the ripples are from our words on the internet, that we will never know.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

Posts: 4483 | Registered: Jun 2007
Feeling so alone
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

capri, so glad my walk with Jesus helped you. I find it so comforting. He is truly my Friend. I so look forward to one day making that very walk.


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


Posts: 1357 | Registered: May 2007
Insomuchpain
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for all of you today!

God please lift each of us in your loving arms. Carry us through these times of trial. Lead us, strengthen us, show us your will and your way. Guide us through each day and grant us peace. Please hear the prayers in the hearts of all on SI.


Not "insomuchpain" anymore...
Divorced

Posts: 362 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: A better place now...
mariusa
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi,
I would like to make a request for prayers for my STBXH.
He is so lost and sinking fast.
For my children who are so hurt and confused.
Also prayers for me to be able to deal with him with without being intimidated by his anger and hurtfulness. To keep possitive for me and my children, and that we will be taken care of no matter how this ugliness turns out.

Thank you. I appreciate this thread!!


BS(me)45 now 48, WH (POS)45 now 48
M 24trs, DD14, DS15
POS OW - then 24, now doesn't matter
D-day 1/2/07, Divorced 11/13/08
“Live without pretending, Love without depending, Listen without defending, Speak without offending."

Posts: 2058 | Registered: Feb 2007 | From: NY
Insomuchpain
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for you Mariusa!


Not "insomuchpain" anymore...
Divorced

Posts: 362 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: A better place now...
Petrinka
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for all here, our God is faithful and is our strength in these awful times.

Maia, you can't imagine how much your prayer for me means to me - that I found it today is a miracle from the Lord, sent to comfort me. Thank you, my dear friend.


Divorced May 31, 2007

Posts: 245 | Registered: Mar 2006 | From: Nevada Desert
soverysad
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Anjin))))) Thank you.

God, I ask that you be with Abby right now. She is in the depths of despair. Please show her that You are with her. Carry her through this time. Send her help, Lord. Amen.



Posts: 518 | Registered: May 2007
akaKatie
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, July 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anjin, thank you so much for your prayer list.

We run the gamut here on SI - from incredible comfort to overbearing the pain.

I'm reading the Psalms .... gingersnap, there are some really good ones where David cries out to God to deal with his enemies.

Praying for everyone.


Me - BS, 58 (I'm Katie)
Him - WS, 60
Friends since 1965, together since 1968, married in 1972
3 adult children
LTA - EA/PA/EA 1993(?)-2000
OW: Obsessed with H since 1965, continues "friendship" with MIL
D-Day: H told me May 2006

Posts: 210 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: By the water
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 1:10 AM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praise for Anjin! He took the list and made it so beautiful. Very, very nice Anjin. Thank you so much.

Katie share with me the Psalms.

Prayed the list -
Lord please watch over xbf. Please help him find you. Amen


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
akaKatie
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Default  Posted: 3:09 AM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear Gingersnap

I started reading the Psalms again because my father - who died in 2004 - would tell me stories of the great warrior, David.

But, David was more than a great warrior - he was God's beloved. And he was a sinner too.

I read Psalm 51 and it was written after David's affair with Bathsheba - and I put in my H's name and prayed that he would hear it. (I heard and found H swearing at himself, talking to himself, as he looked at himself in our bathroom mirror). I thought - this Psalm is for him.

Then, I thought, which Psalm is for me. And I found many - and parts of many - that spoke to me.

When I read this first part of Psalm 55, I thought of you:

"Attend to me, and answer me;
I am overcome by my trouble.
I am distraught by the noise of the enemy,
because of the oppression of the wicked.
For they bring trouble upon me,
and in anger they cherish enmity against me.
My heart is in anguish within me,
and the terrors of death have fallen upon me.
Fear and trembling come upon me,
and horror overwhelms me.
And I say, "O that I had wings like a dove!
I would fly away and be at rest;
Yes, I would wander afar,
I would lodge in the wilderness,
I would haste to find me a shelter from the raging wind and tempest."

That is how I felt you feeling.

And Psalm 61:

"Hear my cry, O God,
listen to my prayer;
from the end of the earth I call to thee, wheb my heart is faint.

Lead thou me to the rock that is higher than I;
for thou art my refuge,
a strong tower against the enemy."

Psalm 35:
"Contend, O Lord, with those who contend with me;
fight against those who fight against me!
Take hold of shield and buckler,
and rise for my help!
Draw the spear and javelin against my pursuers!
Say to my soul, 'I am your deliverance'.

Let them be put to shame and dishonor who seek after my life!
Let them be turned back and confounded who devise evil against me!
Let them be like chaff before the wind, with the angel of the Lord driving them on!
Let their way be dark and slippery with the angel of the Lord pursuing them!
For without cause they hid their net for me;
without cause they dug a pit for my life.
Let ruin come upon them unawares!
And let the net which they hid ensnare them;
let them fall therein to ruin!"

There's a lot more, Gingersnap. I'm trying to decide which one is my Psalm but it changes every day and sometimes several times a day.

I'm trying to keep these Psalms in line with the New Testament. So far, I don't see a conflict. I'm going to let God deal his vengenance (even though last month I was looking at guns! - really - and I am a pacifist!).

((((gingersnap))))


Me - BS, 58 (I'm Katie)
Him - WS, 60
Friends since 1965, together since 1968, married in 1972
3 adult children
LTA - EA/PA/EA 1993(?)-2000
OW: Obsessed with H since 1965, continues "friendship" with MIL
D-Day: H told me May 2006

Posts: 210 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: By the water
tater
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anjin, thanks for posting the list.

maruisa - praying for you.
Abby - praying for you.


Me: BS 40 (Yikes)
WH: 40 (LTA)
3 children 12, 7 and 5

Posts: 1125 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: emotional rollercoaster in the midwest
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Katie,
profound. It is the way I have been feeling and exhausted from it all.

Thank you for taking the time to post that. I have tears stremed down my cheeks.

I am praying for us all today - lifting us up so we can have the wings of a dove to rise above the turmoil that the enemy tries to bring to our lives.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
pebbles
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for Abby's soul.

She posted in General last night about taking an overdose and then downing the rest with wine.

Nobody has heard from her since.


me: BS
Dday 7/23/05
This former rock has been blasted into a mound of pebbles.

Posts: 1283 | Registered: Mar 2007
Petrinka
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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, July 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, Abby, Yes ((())) we love yove you, honey please co


Divorced May 31, 2007

Posts: 245 | Registered: Mar 2006 | From: Nevada Desert
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, July 4th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praise that Abby has rejoined our family!

Bless akaKatie, for she knows me better than I've known myself these last few weeks. You are a messenger, an angel in my eyes.

When I reread those Psalms just now, it even scares me - such a fit for my life lately.

For without cause they hid their net for me;
without cause they dug a pit for my life.
Let ruin come upon them unawares!
And let the net which they hid ensnare them;
let them fall therein to ruin!"

So true - very scarey.
Please know that I wish no bad, evil or harm come to xwf. I have remebered himin my prayers (as I was forgetting to pray for him- just us/me).

I never wanted anyone hurt inallthis. I just wanted to be happy with my patner, my love, my fiancee.

He's just a memory now.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
hearbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, July 4th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying the list.

God, please nurture and comfort every hurt and sorrow for the people on this board. We thank you for tater and Anjin and the special people who keep up with this board faithfully and all the others who pray the list faithfully. Especially lift up Abby in her darkest hours. We are thankful she is still here with us. Help Gingersnap and Mariusa and the others who face separation and are going a new direction apart from their WS. Give them the strength and bravery to trudge forward knowing you are with them. Thank you for giving me the courage to get up in front of the judge and speak the truth, no matter how afraid I was.


The court battle is almost over. We go back on the 10th and hopefully it will wrap up then. If we lose this lawsuit we will be penniless.... my salary won't cover our expenses. I worry about my two girls. Pray for me that I have the strength to get through this and the OW does not "pop" up during this ...... I am trying to remember that God will take care of us no matter what. But it is hard... the fear and worry have overtaken me the last few days.

Hugs to all,
Heartbroken


Dday1 8/05 (LTA)
Dday2 4/09 (online EA 2 weeks then confessed)
Dday 3 8/10 ("full disclosure" of more infidelity prior to 2009)

Posts: 869 | Registered: Sep 2005
soverysad
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, July 4th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((heartbroken))))))))))

Thank you to all for your prayers. I pray the list daily. Last night was a dark, dark night for me. I was leaving in the middle of the night, very emotional, when I heard "The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want." I stopped and listened. I went to bed and went to sleep. Hallelujah! The 23rd Psalm.

Thank you, Katie, Psalm 35 is very appropriate to my situation. I think I will begin reading all of them.

fsa - I will try to take a walk with Jesus.

The pain is unbearable sometimes. The loss of job is the "straw". But I really appreciate how everyone's prayers are holding me up right now. Helping me hold on to my faith.

Blessings to all.



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Anjin
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, July 5th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for everyone tonight.


Me: H 37 FWS
Her: W 34 BS
Married 11 years, Together 15
D-day April 17th 2006
Still hopeful for R
Psalm 51

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