Dust - be careful. If your H decides he must go to the hospital, it will send the OW the wrong message unless you are with him. I believe I am correct in remembering that the OW in your case is not so nice. Now is the time to be a UNITED front when it comes to her.
Truly, the baby won't remember one way or another. Personally, I don't think he should go. But it is a decision that only you and your H can make. Everyone's sitch is unique, kwim? If he feels he must be there - take a deep breath - and go with him. Do NOT let him sign anything. Aunt cis is right - signing anything will hurt him, especially if DNA proves him not to be the father.
Hospitals aren't necessarily so rigorous on who signs what at the birth. OW here forged H's signature - on AOPs and birth certificates - nothing was notarized, H's birthplace and birthdate were wrong and his "copies" were sent to her address. It was bad. Too bad for her we discovered it before she could use it to gain even more money.
Just pointing out that even though over&out and marysway are decent -- many OWs are not. They feel entitled - and it isn't about the OC - it is about them.
Dust - if your husband is hell bent on going to the hospital, then you should definately go with him, sovery is right, a UNITED front is what you need to present to the OW. I don't know the right answer for you, because every situation is different & it sounds like you are dealing with a pretty vicious OW, which I'm very sorry you have to deal with that! What I do know is that the birth of your child is an amazing experience that no parent should miss out on. And it sounds like your hubby really wants to go and step up to the plate here & your support would probably mean the world to him. If you do go, again, make sure he doesn't sign anything - but also, I would stress to you that his name should not even be put down on the birth certificate. It can always be added after the paternity test, if your husband is proved to be the father. If you want to talk more in depth, have any other questions, or ever need any other insight into what the OW might be thinking or going through, please feel free to PM me.
Over- I applaud you for coming on here and giving us another opinion on a situation that is hard for all of us.
Dust- If he is going to go to the hospital, I would go with him. And yes do not let him sign anything.
I am going to pick up the OC tomorrow for their bi-weekly visits and see if they look any better. Last time I got them they were dirty, had several scrathes and marks on them and were hungry.
I am going to take them next weekend as well because I will be having surgery soon and I am not sure if we will be able to take them for 2 months while I am bed ridden. All I can do now is document and take pictures and hopefully someone will do something this time. She still doesn't have electricity since July and I know that she does not have any food for them. I wonder if she is sending the twins to school so that they are atleast getting 1 good meal a day.
I just wish OW would crawl in a hole and die and let someone who cares about these OC take care of them.
Wish it wasn't so complicated.
I'm sorry for your pain and the OC's horrible sitch. Sending you prayers and an angel for the OC.
OC is 19 months old now or so, and H and I visit together now, OW doesn't like it at all and still makes emotional trouble sometimes, but it's working okay for now.
The whole situation is so stressful and changeable--you just have to make your decisions from incident to incident, situation to situation. If you and H can come to an agreement about things, and if he is totally committed to your relationship, it can work, but with lots of tears and discussions and heartburn!
Good luck. I'm with you in not wanting to throw away years of a marriage or relationship (in our case, 30 years) for this major and awful decision H made--but it ain't easy!!