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User Topic: Maia's Withdrawal Survival Guide (repost for newbies)
Maia
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, March 12th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumpity bumpity


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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GalGrowingUp
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Default  Posted: 1:19 AM, March 13th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Maia.

I'm not R with STBXWS, but was fooled by a lying xMM.

This is helpful for both betrayals. I'm so glad I found this place. Very helpful!


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, March 13th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you're welcome.

and welcome to SI.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, March 19th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumpity bumpity


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, March 27th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for newbie

:-)


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ohpuhlease
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, March 27th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping cause this is a darn good read for everyone.

Ya...wow! Holy insight Batman!


Those who know others are intelligent. Those who know themselves are truly wise. - Lao-tzu, Tao Te Ching


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, April 4th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, April 14th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, April 17th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, April 17th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the bump Maia!!!!!!!!!!


Me/FWS-45
Him/BS-44
2 great kids(15,11)
1 high-maintenance dog
Love isn't in the falling, it's in the staying. ♥

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, April 17th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

what if you aren't married and have no faith?

someone asked me that today after reading this.

good question.

here is my answer.

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first of all, there is an agnostic/atheist thread in the "I can relate" forum.

go join it. talk to others in your situation.

and secondly....even if you're not in some way religious, you can meditate. That can be helpful. Deep breathing. And most religious works have truth. Read Ghandi. read Carl Jung. Read Joseph Campbell. Search for TRUTH. thats the idea. A search for truth is always a voyage of self discovery and i know if you seek truth with all of your heart, you will always find it. Start looking at lies you've believed, examining your own heart.

you must make amends to yourself.

you've damaged yourself deeply.

and likely you have a moral code. Define it. Decide what things violate your sense of self-respect and dignity.

Sue Monk Kidd wrote a book you might appreciate about self-discovery, it was called "Dance of the Dissident Daughter"

A lady I love deeply and admire for her wisdom, an agnostic friend, recommended it to me.

I was apostate at first. I'd left Christianity for years. I want you to know that. I refused to pray, practiced tarot and tried to follow its path and got into New Age rituals ... if anything at all. Mostly nothing. I found a lot of help regardless, started the road to sanity without real faith, a weird mixture of it and something else.

I did turn back to my faith obviously. But i totally respect and sympathize with those who do not share it.

Gandhi said, "I like your Christ, but not your Christians."

yeah. I know the feeling. I decided to give Christianity another chance and ignore the Christians who'd wounded me. ...try to know Christ. But I know not all will do that. I'm realistic.

Be honest. Try these things. And try giving to your community, to others, in simple ways. Practice selflessness.

and I'd like to add that in the stories of others many times we see ourselves and the truth of our own hearts in ways we can't otherwise. Seek stories that touch you deeply, and pay attention to what they are saying. Journal that. They will likely give you answers about your journey.

write your autobiography. thats a big one.

you have to discover who you are. and what your goals are for your life. and for happiness and for marriage.

and I promise solemnly to pray for you.

[This message edited by Maia at 12:07 AM, April 18th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, April 21st (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, April 24th (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping for newbie

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maia,

Thank you so much! Wish my WW would read this!! It should be in healing library!!!


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Maia
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We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, May 10th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumpity bumpity


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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